Weddings Suck

[Junket]

I don't know why people love them so much. We've been trying very hard to keep ours small, but her parents and older siblings keep inviting more and more of her extended family (and their family). I'm starting to dread this wedding. We should have just gone to a courthouse.

I'm going to have a total of 2 family members and maybe 6 or 7 mutual friends there, while her family is up to like 20-30 people.

[Wakeup]

Are your's or her's parents paying for this wedding? Cause if they are then you don't have much say in the matter however; if they are'nt then your gf should speak up and tell them that the cut-off was 10 people ago, enough already!

I bet you still have fun though.. Just remember to party hearty.

[Junket]

Are your's or her's parents paying for this wedding? Cause if they are then you don't have much say in the matter however; if they are'nt then your gf should speak up and tell them that the cut-off was 10 people ago, enough already!

I bet you still have fun though.. Just remember to party hardy.

That's the biggest problem, it's at her parents house across the country, and we were doing it that way specifically to keep it small, personal and CHEAP.

I'm really starting to dread this wedding. I spent too much on a suit I'll never wear again. Several of my good friends can't come because they work minimum wage jobs and are irresponsible with money so they can't afford a plane ticket (even when I made it clear we would not be offended if they did not provide a gift if they would show). I get to meet all of her extended family whom she never sees, for the first time then am obligated to be nice to them when I didn't want them to be there. All I get from most guys is negative comments on being married and it's starting to wear on me.

I just want to be married and be done with it. This wedding will be like tearing off the band aid.

Hooray.

[tooxshort]

Dude, it's one day. And for many, its the biggest day of their lives. Enjoy it ... you might as well go as balls to the wall as you can!

[HeartIsAching]

I don't know why people love them so much. We've been trying very hard to keep ours small, but her parents and older siblings keep inviting more and more of her extended family (and their family). I'm starting to dread this wedding. We should have just gone to a courthouse.

I'm going to have a total of 2 family members and maybe 6 or 7 mutual friends there, while her family is up to like 20-30 people.

I've done it both ways... going to the courthouse rules hard.

We went out for hot dogs at DQ afterwards for our wedding "feast" - it's what the wife (yay! she was my wife then!) wanted. Looked at me and said "I want hot dogs." I said "Where do you want to go? She said "DQ, then we can have a Peanut Buster Parfait after."

In all seriousness, we wrote out own vows, listened to and agreed with the vows we were required to say by law, said our own vows to each other and the ceremony was awesome. The JP that married us said he'd never heard more beautiful vows, and I felt as married - no, MORE married than I had when doing it the traditional way. If that's what you and your fiancee want, I say go for it.

[HeartIsAching]

I don't know why people love them so much. We've been trying very hard to keep ours small, but her parents and older siblings keep inviting more and more of her extended family (and their family). I'm starting to dread this wedding. We should have just gone to a courthouse.

I'm going to have a total of 2 family members and maybe 6 or 7 mutual friends there, while her family is up to like 20-30 people.

Oh... remember this is YOUR day, not theirs. Have a heart-to-heart with them. Tell them that you're keeping the guest-list to XXX (whatever the number is) and that you will consider requests, but that due to constraints you will be sending out a limited number of invites. You DO NOT have to accede to their wishes just because they want to make sure cousin Billy-Bob isn't put out.

It's your day.

[vashti]

I think the hurt you can cause by excluding family members (who will one day be the relatives of your children) isn't worth asserting your right to "your" day. Remember, this is MORE than just you and your woman getting married - you are also joining two families. Her family is close-knit and feel connected (even the grumbly ones), which I assume you want for your own kids. You are still <50 people, which is considered a very small wedding by almost anyone's standards. Just suck it up.

For the record, I DO sympathize with your point of view. I wanted to elope when I got married, and ended up with about 100 people. I do not regret sharing the day with anyone.

[misombra]

i'll come to the wedding and sit on your side. i'll also bring my screaming child who will easily make enough noise to compete with the 30 people sitting on her side.

[Junket]

Yeah I'm over it.

I think I was just hungry and a minor annoyance felt like a disaster.

I get grumpy when I'm hungry.

[Bo]

Yeah I'm over it.

I think I was just hungry and a minor annoyance felt like a disaster.

I get grumpy when I'm hungry.

Everyone gets grumpy when they are hungry, I would be annoyed too.

[KingZ]

My little brother ran off and got married to some dumb girl this year. Even though I didn't approve of the relationship, I'm pretty offended that he didn't tell me until after the fact. I know you're not very fond of your family, Fras, but for some people, not being invited to a wedding is like saying "Screw you, I don't want you to be a part of my life."

Hahahahahahahaha, you fu​cking woman.

[Mathias]

I'm pretty sure that if your sis ran off and married some jackass, you'd be pissed too. So shut your mouth.

My sister did that. Twice. She's still my sister, and I love her. They can invite who they damn well please. The fact that people can't deal with that and let it screw with their own sense of self-worth is ridiculous.

[KingZ]

My sister did that. Twice. She's still my sister, and I love her. They can invite who they damn well please. The fact that people can't deal with that and let it screw with their own sense of self-worth is ridiculous.

Exactly.

I'm pretty sure that if your sis ran off and married some jackass, you'd be pissed too. So shut your mouth.

Read what Mattycakes said until you get it.

It's funny, how you think you can reasonably disapprove of your brother's relationship with someone else, yet you were pissy because you weren't invited to the wedding.

It's a two-part fail, and my statement still stands: You fu​cking woman.

[Bo]

Well my problem with weddings is how much they cost. The more people you invite the more you have to pay. I don't want to have a happy day if it's going to put me $20000 in debt. That's just shitty.

[IndiReloaded]

I don't know why people love them so much. We've been trying very hard to keep ours small, but her parents and older siblings keep inviting more and more of her extended family (and their family). I'm starting to dread this wedding. We should have just gone to a courthouse.

I'm going to have a total of 2 family members and maybe 6 or 7 mutual friends there, while her family is up to like 20-30 people.

Do a small civil (courthouse) ceremony followed by a house party to celebrate. Take those who come w/you to the courthouse out for dinner (or lunch, depending on the time of day).

I hate big weddings. They are never about the couple, its always for the family. When I suggested to ours (plural), therefore, they pay for it they were suddenly very supportive of the party option.