I've been married for 30 years. Several months ago, I started an emotional affair that turned into a full blown affair. I didn't plan on having the affair, but I didn't stop it from happening either. It was a long distance emotional affair that grew over time. Even though I had met her in person once early on, I didn't' even think of an affair at that time. As our friendship grew, I pushed it one day by sharing my feelings for her. She had the same feelings. It went from there. I feel more in love with her each passing day. I could not wait to communicate with her. We both talked about the situation and tried to stop several times.
As for my marriage, I was no longer in love with my wife. We had drifted apart. I still care for her, but see her as a friend more than a wife. She's not a bad person. We talked about our marriage periodically. It was on the road to divorce.
(I've read so many stories like mine, I feel like I'm copying one of them now.)
My wife learned of the affair. Naturally, she was upset and hurt. I wasn't happy about hurting her either. The affair ended. Now divorce was a given. But now, my wife loves me and has forgiven me (for now). I still care for her.
My problem is that I really miss the other woman. I'm still in love with her. I want to contact her so bad, but I know I can't. I worry about how she is feeling. It's very hard me for to not contact her. I also sit here waiting for her to contact me. Neither is likely to happen since I hurt everyone involved.
I've been suicidal, and I'm seeing a counselor for this and the relationship issues. I think that my wife will eventually think more and see what I did, and tell me to leave. If that happens, I can't go to the other woman either. At least I don't think I can, no matter how I feel about her.
Comments / Advice ?