how to further things

[paul2011paul20]

Right here goes. Theres a woman I am crazy about who I have known for about 5 weeks, we have chatted where possible as I only see her at her work once a week and dont get a chance for more than 5 mins to talk at a time, I always had the feeling she was interested but was not giving clear signals, last week I asked what she was doing at the weekend and she said driving to visist her boyfriend which was a bit of a shock as I didn't factor in she was seeing someone, anway she then said she hadnt seen him for 3 weeks as he went on holiday without her with his freind and they were more like mates now they lived quite a distance apart, I joked maybe it was time to call it a day and she said maybe. Later on a friend told me they thought she was interested as they were watching her and by the way she was looking at me it looked like she was interested now comes my problem I was going to ask her out for a coffee or dog walk as we both have dogs and was going to try a bit of Kino I dont think she knows my name yet so I could introduce myself properly and shake her hand to start tihngs off, from then on I was going to try to be a listening friend and not pushy but maybe try the kino but was looknig for any further advice as I dont want to drop into the freinds only slot but dont want to come over as trying to force them apart for me to waid in so to speak..

[bulrush]

Yes, give her your name first. "Hi, I don't think I gave you my name yet, ny name is Herb." Then another day see if she still has a boyfriend, or if she wants to go out. Some girls will date even if they have a boyfriend. And if they think you are in "upgrade", they will dump the bf and date you.

[paul2011paul20]

I dont think she is going to dump him over night, I think she is checking me out at the moment. I dont know what to do once I have initiated kino, as I said I dont want to turn into a friend but dont know whether to "befriend" her for a while to be the "better" guy

[James Banes]

Go for it, man. Some women are in a relationship but looking for a guy to get them out of it (this includes married women). Be yourself. Don't befriend her first. Maybe just be the funny coworker she likes.