It happened too many times before

[binker]

Hello everyone,

My husband and I have been together for about 6 years now. Everything was perfect in the beginning, but lately I feel he might be cheating on me... Here are the signs:

1.] Very protective of his phone, and its always on vibrate.
If he catches me with his phone in my hand he freaks out on me! He even went as far as putting it on vibrate so I dont hear when it goes off. I have seen whats been coming in and it looks like text messages from strange numbers.

2.] Coming home very late. Past work hours....
Ive been getting the "I had to work late" for 3 weekends in a row! Sometimes its only a hour over, sometimes its 5... but when he comes home his hair isnt messed up and his clothes are still somewhat neat. No perfume smell or other signs besides coming home late.

Im not sure what to do here because I have been freaking out, and I have confronted him about it but he denies everything and tells me I'm crazy... How can I find out if im just imagining things or if theres something to really be worried about? My friend recommended this cell phone spy software called NoWireSpy.com, what do you guys think about spying on his cell phone?... Is it crossing the line? I feel like I have every right too. He is my husband. Im so confused over this.

[kageri]

I think if you have to consider spying on his phone it's time to apply a little broader logic. If the relationship is devolved to the point of no trust approach the topic with some self control instead of accusing and tell him you need to know why he's out late (even if he is actually working those hours he has to be choosing to do so) and why he has suddenly become protective of his phone. If you don't want to live with the way things are going state it outright that you are ready to leave if he can't give you the whole story and trust each other. Spying to get the answers doesn't actually solve anything except to end the relationship either because you don't like what you found or the other person eventually finds out and breaks up with you for it.

[binker]

But if I do find out he is cheating and have the proof I can use that if we get a divorce. He told me flat out if I tried to divorce him he would do any and everything to get custody of our child. He works and I dont. He has all the means to take care of our child and I would not do to the fact that I dont work and am a stay at home Mom.

[oldskool83]

i have seen 2 red flags already, try talking maybe?

[Leona77]

Go to this forum: [url=http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi01_forum.html]The Marriage Builders Discussion Forum - #1 Infidelity Support Community Online[/url]
It deals with infidelity and marriage building...it helped my friend a lot.There are people out there who can tell you what to do and how to behave ... Good luck