Is this girl playing me or interesting in relationship?

[bythecliff]

So I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks. We met online. The first time we met, I teased her for a bit and after hanging out she came over to my apt and we watched some TV and had a beer. I wanted to make out with her but she said she's just looking for a real relationship right now or friendship. So she left that first night.

Since then, we hung out a few more times and we've gotten extremely physical/touchy. I touched her multiple times on the hair and head and arms and legs and she was reciprocating. When I got a new bed for my room, she even joked about sleeping on my bed, but making me sleep outside on the couch. I'm like... WTF? You think I'd let you stay overnight without at least making out with me? (I didn't say this to her directly but thought about it in my head).

Also, since the first night, she texts me addressing me as "love, sweetheart, or honey". I know a lot of girls call people sweetheart or honey, but "love"? seriously? Never seen too many girls spew that one out like water.

We continue flirting by text and when we meet we flirt. But I've noticed that she also likes to keep a ton of guy "friends" hovering around her to keep her company. These are really shy guys who seem completely friend-zoned without any physical contact. When I see her with them I touch her / physically escalate showing I want to be more than just a damn guy in a "friend zone". She seems comfortable with it and reciprocates.

My apt room doesn't have curtains yet but they will be installed soon. She asks me yesterday night when my bed room with have curtains. I say soon and I'll let her know. She keeps on joking with me about sleeping on my bed cause it looks so comfortable, but having me sleep outside on the couch. Is this really a way of flirting with me in a quasi-sexual manner?

I'm tired of playing this little game with this girl and as soon as my bedroom gets curtains I'm gonna invite her over for some beer/wine or something and I feel like I should just lean over, kiss her, and initiate the makeout session. If she refuses then it's time I start allocating my time to someone else who actually wants to be in a relationship with me.

Do you gals think this is a good way to approach? I will not allow myself to slip into her "friend zone" - I'm looking for a gf and don't want to waste my time if she's just craving attention but not committed, or playing me. I will not be one of her lame male friends who keep her company lol.

I would appreciate any girl's views on this.

[MissAzolee]

well honestly in my opinion i think that she is playing hard to get, but im not to sure on that...you should ask her straight up what her problem is. she may just want some attention from those guys, but personality wise does she seem like a person you can see urself with a few years down the line?

[oneandonly]

But it's been only a few weeks! I am not really sure if you are friend zoned. You do make out. She reciprocates. So, she fancies you.

Can you not keep it the way and see if you like her as a long term girlfriend rather than being so eager to bed with her?

I wouldn't reciprocate the way she does if I don't fancy a guy. It would be very creepy to let a guy touch me espeically if I see him just as a friend. But, I would prefer wait and see how we mesh further down in many ways not only physical attraction before I feel 100% comfortable to take it further with him. Nothing is guaranteed - it may not work out. But I've gotta be 100% comfortable with a guy. It doesn't mean I am playing game.

That's my take on the situation though. She may be different....