Is it over (again)?

[shadows_girl]

I have been dating the same guy for 2 years now, first long relationship for me. In the beginning, well, to be honest, I wasn't sure whether I liked him that way or not, but eventually fell for his charm and well, an epic love story, moved in together, and got engaged.

That was almost a year ago now. 2 months ago, we broke up. Because he had taken me for granted for several months, and no matter how much I told him that I wanted him to care more, he didn't. We spent a week broken up, until he told me he had given up on the relationship because I had gained weight (maybe 10 pounds over 5 months, school full time, stress, no time to work out, it was obvious that I would gain that weight). I freaked out, already had issues with my figure, and told him he was becoming his father. His father that broke it off with his mother for the same reason, and never found a woman as great as her since. I left, and he well, was shaken, crying, upset because the last thing he wants is to be his father. Basically, we both destroyed each other. Then I came back, and he told me he wanted me back to make it up to me, and to make sure I was happy this time and that he'd do everything it'ld take for that.

Thing is, since that day, the first month was alright, he was the boyfriend I had in the first year we were together, but now he seems to have forgotten what it was like. I tell him stuff that worries me, such as having issues with food and exercice since what he told me, and he doesn't take me seriously or even bother answer sometimes, he answers me in monosyllabic words when I ask about his day, or anything to make him talk, ect.

On top of that, lately, I have been thinking about another guy, with whom I have obvious chemistry. Nothing serious, just well, a crush on someone that clearly cares for me, as a friend at the least. Just enough to make me wonder whether if I am thinking about someone else, means I might have already moved on from this relationship.

What do you think? Is it worth giving this guy another chance? Maybe Im being too difficult on him? Or is it time to call it quits? (which Im really scared to, when we broke up, he was clearly in worst shape then I was, and well, it's hard to see someone you care about in bad shape because of you...)

[MerryH]

How many chances do you think you need to give him? You tried talking to him about it and that didn't work. You broke up with him over it and that only worked for a very short time. He's had chances to try to improve your relationship and it didn't work. I think it's safe to say that you can expect this behavior to continue as long as you're with him. That's just how he is.

And damn, I would be so pissed off if my boyfriend gave up on our relationship because of ten ****ing pounds. Ten pounds! You know, if it bothered him so much, he could have tried to speak to you about it nicely, or he could have just had some balls and ended it with you instead of putting you through misery. Ugh. How could you have forgiven that? That would instantly ruin a relationship for me. I don't think I would ever be comfortable around him again.