GIRLS: If you were in her situation, would you hate me too?

[lonewolf720]

Ok, so me and this girl were talking for about a month and we both liked each other but after a month of talking she said "i think we should be friends....i'm sorry" and "but don't be afraid to talk to me" and "I'm sorry if i made you mad or sad". Her reason was because she felt like she let her morals down by letting me finger her. I also heard from a mutual friend that she said i was too "pushy" for sexual things. When she gave me that talk i tried to keep her by saying "i really like you and i'll do anything to make this workout" and she said "Josh, i know, but it's just awkward now. She tried to IM me on facebook saying "hey " a month after the "lets be friends" but i just replied with "sup" and got off without saying anything because i wasn't over her at the time and she was just trying to put me in the friends zone. I also blocked her on facebook cuz it hurt me to see her happy with a guy she got with like 3 months later.

It's been 7 months since the "lets be friends", haven't talked to her since, and it turns out that she got a job and works with one of my best friends. He asked her if she knew me and he said that she really dis likes me and said i'm a bad person. She also said that i'm obsessed with her and that i wouldn't stop texting her and the only time i started texting her a lot was when i sensed she was getting kind of distant toward me and that went on for like a week before she told me "lets be friends", does that make me obsessed with her?

[randomdood]

Duddeee **** Bitches, they all evil

[MaidenMinx]

And you and her are how old?

If you did push her into doing things she wasn't comfortable with, I'd dislike you too if I was her.

[lonewolf720]

And you and her are how old?

If you did push her into doing things she wasn't comfortable with, I'd dislike you too if I was her.

We are both 17. and I didn't want to make her feel like that, it was a stupid mistake. Unfortunately theres nothing i can do to take it back.

[sadie_genie]

Ya...nothing you can do now. You made a bad impression by being too pushy for sex.

[MaidenMinx]

No there's not, but there is something going in your favour, you are young enough to learn from this. Read up on body language so you can learn the cues, because unfortunately the average 17 yr old gal can't say "yes, please finger me." Waaaaay too upfront and embarrassing.

[lonewolf720]

I just wish i could do it all over again i cant stop thinking about that one mistake. ugh its been eating at me for awhile

[devonbrown]

I agree that at this point there is really nothing you can do. The only thing you can do is learn from it and move forward. This girl is in your past now. Leave her there. And just make sure that you pay more attention to future romantic interests and what they want. Time and distraction are what you need now. Keep yourself busy so to stop beating yourself up over this. You have to find a way to make peace with yourself.

Good luck.

[lonewolf720]

ok, ill try my hardest to keep my mind off of her