The big "O" dilemma

[latetriage]

This topic has been covered in some respects, but I thought I'd post it more specifically to my situation.

My girlfriend has had only one orgasm since we have been together for 6 months. It was while she was on top when it happened. I have since asked her what she does to achieve orgasm and if she can show me. She always refuses to and is non- specific what she does or if she can. She says that everything I do and sex feels good to her, yet she can never orgasm.

It's not for lack of effort on my part either. A typical intimate session is 15-30 mins of making out, around 20-30 minutes of manual stimulation and oral, and then sex after she has had ample time to warm up. I've tried oral for longer as well as a vibrator and it doesn't seem to help. I've even read a book on oral and tried stuff like the "Kivin" method to try to improve my oral technique to help her out.

All my effort is in vein. Anywho, I know that the important part is that we are both enjoying each other. But, it can be a major shot to the male ego and makes me feel like something is wrong when it seems like she is incapable of having an orgasm.

Has anyone had a similar situation or have any input. Thanks in advance for any replies.

[Superfantastich]

two massive things (for me anyway)
does she have clitoral stimulation during sex?
and position, touching the g spot

[smackie9]

Tip: most women can't orgasm with penetration, so it's best to have her O before. here is a new thing you can try with her. [url=http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=dabff4013995719db18e]Full Body Orgasm - Pornhub.com[/url]

[bulrush]

Same as I have read: most women cannot orgasm with vaginal sex. It usually requires oral sex involving the clitoris and other parts. This has been true with most of my partners. Although out of my partners that really know themselves, they prefer vaginal sex doggie style, which helps them orgasm.

Sex therapists also report that, for most women that have major problems with orgasm, the problem is mostly they cannot let go and have fun.

So I've given you some issues to look at. Talk to your gf. Be open-minded. Find out if she wants you to do something different. It could be something simple as, the skin on your hands is too rough and you have to fix that.

[smackie9]

A real good massage can work.....helps them to relax. That and a quick shot of porn lol but that's just me.

[latetriage]

She definitely gets clitoral stimulation during intercourse. I try to mainly do the modified missionary where I'm rubbing on her clit with penetration and her on top which stimulates her also. And I'll start an open ended communication about things she may like better or want. And smackie, before my current profession I was a massage therapist. She gets lots and lots of great massages! Thanks for the replies.

[romantic_guy]

Is she able to bring herself to orgasm?

[toshiba]

First off, don't blame it on yourself. My first GF literally never orgasmed (for years I thought I was doing something wrong), people since have had no problem coming to climax with me. A lot of it is in her head.

My current GF rubs her clit while I penetrate to orgasm, she has to be involved for it to happen, that's just her, not everyone is the same.

I have since asked her what she does to achieve orgasm and if she can show me. She always refuses to and is non- specific what she does or if she can.

WTF, you are trying to help her, she should be appreciative of this.

[Hookahmike]

Your issues seem like a little bit of a lot of things for one she seems uncomfortable expressing her sexual needs which may stem from unfamilarety eith her own body and as a result your unfamiliarety with it, she may also be too tense to climax. I would suggest spending some time just exploring eachothers bodies and take the need for either of you to orgasm out of the picture for a bit, encourage her to tell you what does and doesnt feel good. sensual massauge is great for this, it increses your familiarety with her body, relaxes her and stimulates communication.