I try to make a long story short.
I know someone online and we are having something good going on since over a year. So I thought. We are planning for him to come to visit me, sharing the costs for the ticket, but I have to book it because the guy is an broken artist...
Anyway, after we started getting into serious planning and I am still having trust issues, I did something which is probably bad.
He is on a social website where he has 6000! female friends, posting a lot of pictures. He is very attractive, this is the reason. I am not naive, I know it is not for promoting his work, as he says.
I got the bright idea to set up a faked profile and get in contact with him. Worked fine, he was flirting with my alter ego. Not so obvious, but just how we started. Being very understanding and interested, right. And when "she" asked if he is in a relationship or something, he said he was still searching. That isn't exactly a lie, we don't consider us in a relationship, but it tells me he leaves everything open. Only god knows with how many women he is corresponding like this, it is crazy. My profile and my emails made it pretty clear that I am looking for a man, btw.
Now I don't think he is a scammer, they ask for more. Also his art and his work is all over the internet, I can see it with my own eyes. I also do believe (well, I like to believe...) he does care for me, we write a lot and there are no mysterious dissappearings, nothing like that. But I think he is a player and got big issues in the woman department.
I deleted this profile because I felt bad about it. I am trying to forget it, just take it as it comes, get to know him anyway and have fun. But I am hurt. I am not sure if I can or want to do this, because now my trust level is down zero. And what tells me, he is not doing the same thing with others? He is so good looking that women make it probably totally easy for him. Maybe just because I was a hard case so far and a challenge, was what makes me interesting enough.
Right now I am totally confused. I always knew that he is not Mr. Nice Guy, ok. And it is not like he did anything else which would indicate he is using me. We went pretty deep and also had enough fights about certain issues. Whatever happened, he hung on and he did teach me a few good things. He never asked for money except sharing the costs for the ticket, so he can make it over. And this isn't that much.
I don't know, I am not doing anything at the moment and pretend everything is cool. But I wonder if I can let that slide and lower my expectations to just having fun or if I will not confront him with what I did, which would possibly mean the friendship is over. And then I would miss the good things. On the other side, maybe it is all a fantasy I was building up and I should hurry to come down to earth.
Ok, this is longer then I intended too. Maybe someone had a similar experience, I would like some objective opinions.
So thanks for the input, if I get some.