So, I'm in my 30's and I realized I've never been in a serious relationship before. I actually realized that 2 years ago, when I met a dreamgirl (I'll explain later what that means). Now this dreamgirl wasn't interested in me and she was very clear about it and, however hard that was, I had to let it go. But the thing she made me wish for was warmth and genuine caring.
Fast forward to today. I met another dreamgirl about three weeks ago. I'm quite shy and insecure when it comes to women and the fact that I'm not exactly good looking (not to my own standards anyway) doesn't help much. But the thing that terrifies me most is that girls will be completely creeped out when they learn about my practically zero experience with women. Nonetheless, I asked this new dreamgirl out and it was the perfect performance, but she said no because she is married.
What I realized, is that I stayed holed up in my lab all my life and met too few women. In fact, I'm amazed I met any dreamgirl in all that time. But since I met these ones, there must be more. So, the question is where and how to look for them? I think the good starting point is to tell people about the way I am. Maybe women who are interested in that kind of person I am will tell me in what kind of place should I look for them. Things are a little complicated for me because I live in a foreign town and I don't speak their language.
Anyway, I think the correct questions to ask the girls are:
1. What do nice single girls who look for a boyfriend who cares do when they are not at work?
2. When is it ok, and when is it not to ask said girls out?
3. Where would you like to go out on the first date with the new guy?
4. Would you run like hell if I told you I know nothing about women?