What does he want from me?

[Presidenta]

We have known eachother for about 7 months, but we started hanging out alone for about a month ago. Our first night together was so special - It started with that me and him smoked a few joints down by the river, then we went home to his place to watch a movie. We were sitting in two different sofa's but suddenly we were sitting together cuddeling, both felt the chemestry, we ended up in bed together. After this night we have been hanging out almost every single day, he is calling me randomly.. He has slept here, me there and we speak about deep things and just laughs. He is calling me his girl, kiss my forhead and holds my hand, but i am not to good at sending the same signals back to him i think.. He once said that he wanted to talk to me about something serious but we never did. Also he is hot n cold, and he can be very rude, so can I.. For about a week ago i told him that i'm sick of playing this game, but i have had alot fun. Then he drove home to me and akes me to come with him.. So i did, then we had an amazing night talking,laughing,smoking and had sex. We agreed to not have sex anymore but just be good friends after this. Still he is calling me everyday. Saturday i was drunk, and i've felt like he has been to rude sometimes, even tho iknow thats just cuz he wont let his guards down. So he drove and met me and i was a bitch, tolf him that im just hustlin him, using him.. that he aint worth the shit under my shoes. Yesterday he called me while i was at a family dinner, he wanted to meet me and just smoke a little and that i had hurt him trough the things i said saturday. ( all my friends agree he deserved it ) He came home to my place. He also asked me when i last ****ed another man i said about a month before i met u and blablabla.. He is often calling me just cuz he want to know where im at. Got the wibes that he is jealous and wanna controll me somtimes. But i am a strong girl and he knows so that is mission impossible. He know i can have pretty much wich boy i want ( not to sound like a bitch who cant get over myself ) so im really considiring find myself another man now.. But yet i still think about him.. What to do? shiiit.. sorry for my bad english and the fact that i wrote a ****ing novel :p be my dr. phil?

[smackie9]

Let's admit to our selves here, things weren't really ideal with him were they? There really wasn't much else going for this relationship except for a few good times....the rest sucked, so just chalk it up as an experience and move on to someone new that won't be such a pain to deal with.

[bulrush]

Also he is hot n cold, and he can be very rude...
Got the wibes that he is jealous and wanna controll me somtimes.

And you think this is a guy you want to keep...because?

We agreed to not have sex anymore but just be good friends after this.

Now the sex is gone, why would he stick around? Guys need sex, it's not a want. No sex=no relationship.

So you have 2 choices: 1) make a choice based on your emotions (it felt good so he MUST be a great guy), 2) look at the facts of how he acts and how he treats you. Decide if a rude guy is all you're worth.

[Presidenta]

Let's admit to our selves here, things weren't really ideal with him were they? There really wasn't much else going for this relationship except for a few good times....the rest sucked, so just chalk it up as an experience and move on to someone new that won't be such a pain to deal with.

hahaha yeah lets admit to our selves xD

[smackie9]

Thought you would find that funny : D

[Presidenta]

I wanna keep him because he is different, we are very similar. We both can be very rude, but i'm not rude in the same say as him.. It's like he got very lov selfesteem. And even if he wanted to controll me like my wibes are telling me..I wouldn't let him, so the question is could i change him ( i know how he was with his ex girlfriend ) is he worth my effort?

Yeah sex is gone.. He told me that he is gonna stop smoking weed, and he was wondering if i still would be his friend ( he sais he enjoy my personality) and i believe him. The thing with this guy is: u have never met anyone like him, ever :S I dont know if he's ****ing with my mind or what the deal is.. Cuz he won't let me go :S No, no girl deserves a rude boy.. I wanna be a princess and this shit aint working for me.. So im always thinking should i give him more chanses, more time to change. But after your replies im more like " no **** that he isnt gonna change for me hasta la vista " so thank u think i have made up my mind.

[smackie9]

This is the problem with many women....they are too subborn to know you can't change a man, and that you can find a better one.

[devonbrown]

It sounds like neither of you really like the other one, so I don't see a reason for you two to even be conversing any more. Move on, wish him luck, and separate completely.