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    girl can't orgasm?

    Where do I start?

    I dont really want to post this, its a major blow to my ego, but whatever.

    First off, I've been seeing this girl for about 6 weeks. About three weeks in , we got really drunk and had sex. She had some regrets, but then everything was cool. I think communication with sex is a big deal. So, i ask her what she likes and so forth. She begins to tell me that she has NEVER orgasmed. This complelty threw me off, because she was in one or two long term relationships.

    Initially, i thought this would be cool to be the guy who gave her, her first one. So i question her about the old b/f, and if foreplay was used. She says barely, and tells me that they were selfish. So i do my thing with my finger for awile(30 mins to an hour). SHe likes it buts doesnt "get over the hump." I repeat this everytime we have sex, nothing. I have tried MULTIPLE postions, nothing. I can last a long time, so thats not an issue.

    This is really bothering me, because half the fun is making them get off. Now, I'm starting to be hesitant towards having sex, knowing that i may not be able to get her off. I dont know what else to do. I tell her to tell me what she likes and what not, but still no result.

    BACKROUND - One ex, and my only other sex partner. With my ex, she would have multiple orgasms almost everytime. Crying was a common reaction on her end. Everytime we tried a new position it was like night and day. The sex was great.

    What should i do?

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    You should give her an orgasm. Love her long time. lmao

    ~!!masterbaute before sex thou!!!~

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    join a website "www.squirting101.com" teaches really well how to make a girl cum, if that dont work, then stop trying, just worry about getting off youself and **** that *****

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    Nero = *******. Don't use girls just to get yourself off without doing anything to them. That is why they cheat and leave you, cause your not pleasuring them. Nero must be a lonely man or just an *******. Anyways... pleasure her and she will be wanting more. Simple.

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    yes keep assuming, dumb faggot

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    see, why are we fighting then, I too share neo-nazi veiws, hitler is one of my idols

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    Not every girl can orgasm, the percentage of women that can do so during sex is actually quite low. Does she masturbate? That should help her to find out what she likes. My roommate for instance has never had an orgasm while having sex, but she can use her vibrator during sex and have one. It can also be due to her state of mind while having sex, or is she on any medication, there can be so many factors. Really, I know for myself if I'm having sex with my bf and I don't have an orgasm that particular time, no big deal bc for girls it is alot more emotional than for guys. And the reason why girls cheat on their bf is usually not because of sexual reasons, it is bc men don't understand women's emotional needs, and they look for someone who will give them that. Hope that helps.

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    She has never had an orgasm...

    here's a little tidbit, i left out.
    She was raped when she was younger, and that was her first sexual experience. I know that this is a HUGE issue, and i think it may be the main reason why she has a problem. I think its all pysological, in her head. I dont know how to get around that. Maybe time will fix it? maybe not?

    Actually this explains a lot about her not being selfish. She tries so hard to please me. This bothers me to no end. I had another thread about this. The issue now is to please her, and if its possible.

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    try slowly sticking a large nail in it, that always gets the bi*ches going

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    assholeeeeee

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    im trying to help you out, jesus, your the one who posted saying "poor me, my girlfriend cant get off because I have the di*k of a 4 year old kid with polio..please help me!" so I give u advice and you do THIS?!

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    I was raped about a year and a half ago and with my current bf, it took me about 3 or 4 months to have an orgasm. Everytime I had sex with him I got anxious, and orgasms are a relaxing response. It is more than likely in her head. She needs to seek help to get over it, she may not even know that it exists, it may be subconcious.

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    Also, don't get negative about you wanting to have sex with her, that's kind of making it about you, it's actually about her. And if you care enough, and if she actually wants your help, that's where your focus should be. This can be a growing experience, don't turn it negative.

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    Quote Originally Posted by inkeepingsecret
    Where do I start?

    I dont really want to post this, its a major blow to my ego, but whatever.

    First off, I've been seeing this girl for about 6 weeks. About three weeks in , we got really drunk and had sex. She had some regrets, but then everything was cool. I think communication with sex is a big deal. So, i ask her what she likes and so forth. She begins to tell me that she has NEVER orgasmed. This complelty threw me off, because she was in one or two long term relationships.

    Initially, i thought this would be cool to be the guy who gave her, her first one. So i question her about the old b/f, and if foreplay was used. She says barely, and tells me that they were selfish. So i do my thing with my finger for awile(30 mins to an hour). SHe likes it buts doesnt "get over the hump." I repeat this everytime we have sex, nothing. I have tried MULTIPLE postions, nothing. I can last a long time, so thats not an issue.

    This is really bothering me, because half the fun is making them get off. Now, I'm starting to be hesitant towards having sex, knowing that i may not be able to get her off. I dont know what else to do. I tell her to tell me what she likes and what not, but still no result.

    BACKROUND - One ex, and my only other sex partner. With my ex, she would have multiple orgasms almost everytime. Crying was a common reaction on her end. Everytime we tried a new position it was like night and day. The sex was great.

    What should i do?
    Perhaps you should suggest masturbation. Get her some toys to play with on her own and see if she can't get off in private. If she wants your help, then by all means, get in on the action. Just make it your mission to get her off. Work on her for hours if that is what it takes. If she has really NEVER had an orgasm before, she might not know how. Tell her to relax and just focus on all the feelings she is experiencing. Tell her to fantasize about anything that really turns her on. Just get her in the mood. You seem like you are determined so do this for her. She will thank you threefold, guaranteed lol Once she has her first one, she will know what it is like and she will be able to have them in the future. If/When you do this though, don't start out by saying "You are going to come tonight!" Just let it happen. That statement will put a lot of performance pressure on her and that is not what you want. Start off by giving her a massage or maybe take a bath together. Get her relaxed before you try to get her all hot and bothered. Take your time with everything and just go slow. Let her focus on all the sensations you are giving her. Rub over her body. Lick and kiss her gently. Then start to pick it up a little and play with her breasts and thighs. Wait as long as you can to go to her genitals. You want to build a bit of sexual tension for her so she will be highly aroused before you get to work on her. Once you get her good and ready, get down and try some oral. Again, start slow. Massage and touch over her thighs and down her legs with one of your hands. Once you get the momentum going, use your finger in her. Always start slowly and once she seems really into it, pick up your speed. Ask her what she wants throughout the whole night. Make sure that what you are doing is really pleasing her. Tell her to guide you when ever she likes something or doesn't. Get to know every aspect of her sexuality and I'm sure you'll have her coming in no time. Good luck though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackRose
    Perhaps you should suggest masturbation. Get her some toys to play with on her own and see if she can't get off in private. If she wants your help, then by all means, get in on the action. Just make it your mission to get her off. Work on her for hours if that is what it takes. If she has really NEVER had an orgasm before, she might not know how. Tell her to relax and just focus on all the feelings she is experiencing. Tell her to fantasize about anything that really turns her on. Just get her in the mood. You seem like you are determined so do this for her. She will thank you threefold, guaranteed lol Once she has her first one, she will know what it is like and she will be able to have them in the future. If/When you do this though, don't start out by saying "You are going to come tonight!" Just let it happen. That statement will put a lot of performance pressure on her and that is not what you want. Start off by giving her a massage or maybe take a bath together. Get her relaxed before you try to get her all hot and bothered. Take your time with everything and just go slow. Let her focus on all the sensations you are giving her. Rub over her body. Lick and kiss her gently. Then start to pick it up a little and play with her breasts and thighs. Wait as long as you can to go to her genitals. You want to build a bit of sexual tension for her so she will be highly aroused before you get to work on her. Once you get her good and ready, get down and try some oral. Again, start slow. Massage and touch over her thighs and down her legs with one of your hands. Once you get the momentum going, use your finger in her. Always start slowly and once she seems really into it, pick up your speed. Ask her what she wants throughout the whole night. Make sure that what you are doing is really pleasing her. Tell her to guide you when ever she likes something or doesn't. Get to know every aspect of her sexuality and I'm sure you'll have her coming in no time. Good luck though.
    that was some very informative information, thanks

    i think you just got me off

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