how can i find someone....yea simple as that...

[heavymetalkid]

im 18 since august, and i never had a real girlfriend (so im still a virgin). ive been going to an all boys school all my high school years and went to a very small middle school, so less chance of getting a girl.

also im very quiet in public and sometimes stutter (worse when i speak up in front of a class even when i know most of them good). which is ironic because girls will talk to me and ive never been called ugly (ive been called handsome/cute many times by different people), i just get nervous around people and sometimes dont even bother with social situations. i only see a few girls in person, with probably half of them being at my job sadly.

ive also had strong feelings for my neighbor since 2009, and ive known her since 2007. long story short i can never go out with her, we havent even talked in almost a year.

the only times i really go out nowadays is when i play guitar at peoples houses. since ive been feeling pretty bad for a while for no clear reason ive had strong feelings about joining the army after high school, and been encouraged to try to be a ranger since the practice ASVAB said i was eligable.

i just feel bad never having a relationship and not being comfortable around people at my age

[MaidenMinx]

Dude, what you describe is more common than you'd think, especially for people into metal. Keep the guitar up, get a band together platt some local gigs. That will help your confidence.

[heavymetalkid]

people into metal? why you say that? just curious.

[MaidenMinx]

Coz I am a people into metal and know lots of peoples into metal. A lot of us have social issues. That's why I suggest you start gigging. You'll meet more people with at least one mutual interest.

[MaidenMinx]

Oh and if you're after the psychology of why so many people into metal have social issues our that people with social issues gravitate towards metal, I'm too tired to go into what I've read.

[heavymetalkid]

is that why your name has "Maiden" in it haha like "Iron Maiden" but yea i see what you mean and after i thought about it it's kinda true and i noticed the more i jam with people and practice guitar i feel overall better...but eventually im probably going into the army.

[bcgirl]

Why not join acting classes or speech classes? I know it's totally out of your comfort zone, but it can help gain more confidence. The main thing about shy people is that we are so worried about what other people may think about us, how they would judge us. In reality, people aren't as judgemental as we think. They shy ones are usually the observer and the most judgemental of them all.... You will realize that no one really cares about your studdering but yourself, you are your worst critic.
My advice is to join some sort of class or hobby that involves interactions with a group.