what does she really want?

[SheLovesMeNot]

I'll refer to the girl as "J"


Okay, so I met "J" January of 2010 through my sister(she is a coworker of my sister's) we went out a few times, then I broke it off because I got back with my baby's mother we talked as friends for a few months and then lost contact during the summer (2010)
**In August of 2011 my baby's mother and I were on the verge of a breakup. Well, we got into a huge fight and she left the house saying that she was going with her friend to take her friends daughter to the emergency room, I of course I didn't believe her since she had a history of lying so I drove by the hospital.*
I saw her car so I started to leave when a woman called out my name. I stopped and turned around thinking it was my baby's mother to my surprise it was "J", I parked my car and got out to talk to her, she went on to tell me her dad was in the hospital, and we visited for about 2 hours... Later that night my baby's mother and I broke up.*
From that point on "J" and I talked non-stop as friends, and became really close. "J"*was very supportive during that time, and I did everything I could to help her with what was going on with her family life. About a month later I asked "J" out again and she said yes.a few days later I hung out with a female friend I hadn't seen in 3 years, my sister told me the next day when she got off work that it really upset "J". I called "J" and explained the situation, and how sorry I was for not telling her beforehand and that my female friend was a lesbian and there was nothing there. She said she understood and didn't mean to over react. Well we were together almost two weeks and she broke up with me, saying she wasn't her best and I deserved her best, asked if I would still be her friend. I assumed it was the usual "we can still be friends" speech but we have become even closer friends since then. One night, in my drunken stupor I text messaged her asking "will I ever get another chance" she said yes and gave me the same she "isn't her best" line. We flirt on a daily basis, When we are all out as a group she pairs up with me sits by me, we walk arm in arm, and she remains single... The whole situation is very confusing.*
she went through a REALLY bad breakup right before I met her, from a long term relationship.*

*So my question is, is it true that she wants to be with me she just needs time to heal? Or is she just stringing me along?

Any advice would really help!
Thank you

[SheLovesMeNot]

Anyone have any ideas?
Thanks in advance!

[bcgirl]

I think she is stringing you along. She just got out of a long term relationship. You are her shoulder to lean on and cry on.

[iamminzy]

kinda like a rebound and probably wants a friend to lean on like bcgirl said

[bulrush]

I think J wants to use your shoulder and nothing else. If she won't cook she should get out of the kitchen.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Tell her friends is not an option anymore, and she should call you when she feels she's at her best and wants to date, and not before. Then stop responding to her.

[skeeziix]

I wouldn't jump to conclusions but if you like her don't be her every beck and call. And if you are ready for the answer simply ask her flat out what the hell the deal is. Or move on and see what happens. Don't make someone a priority that keeps you an option!