I have been in a relationship for a year with someone who has a child with an ex-girlfriend (in state) AND an ex-wife with a step-child (out of state). Very early in the relationship, he crossed the line physically with BOTH. We have since truly worked past that, and I do trust his commitment to me. My issue has to do with the fact that neither of these women (who he has to communicate with because of the children)know about me. He's going to be talking with the ex-wife...but the (in state) ex-girlfriend poses custody issues. She threatens making life hell for him if he finds out he's dating someone. I am SO UNCOMFORTABLE with her not knowing about me. I am finding myself more insistant that he tell her, even if it requires talking with his lawyer first to protect himself. He is insisting that he won't tell her until we are just about get married, which marriage is a mutually intended plan - no rushing. I am going crazy with her not knowing...she has been trying every single day to prode her way back in. She is a desperate woman making every effort possible to get them to TOGETHER again. I trust him, but not her. What can I do? And I am aware, as long as I am in his life, both of these women will be in mine in one way or another. Help!