lies..

[bukan boneka]

should i forgive my bf everytime he lied to me.

[surfhb]

no.............

[ashley235]

what does he lie about?
you shouldnt forgive him everytime or else he will keep doing it

[SplendidGray]

Is his lying chronic or is this the first time you've caught him?

If we define "forgive" as letting go of the anger and embitterment towards him, then yes you should forgive. Everyone's human, we make mistakes that hurt those we love.

If we define "forgive" as pretending it never happened and continuing in a relationship with a liar, that's a different story.

Trust is a prerequisite to true selfless love, and there's a slim chance you will be able to trust a liar. You cannot think of another person's needs while you are constantly under threat of being emotionally destroyed through lies. Additionally, lying is a major red flag that indicates he probably isn't capable of selfless love at this time.

So if he has lied to you multiple times then your choices are:

A) Be a relationship with a liar, which implies a lack of trust, which implies lack of true love.

B) Drop him.

[bulrush]

1. What did he lie about? This makes a big difference. If he hated a dress you have, but he told you he likes it, is that a lie?

2. How many times does he lie in a month?

3. Is he truly sorry for lieing and does he change his ways? Someone who is truly sorry will change their ways. So be on the lookout for people who do not have the capacity to improve.

[bcgirl]

there are varying degrees of lying. Is he lying about eating the last cookie in the cupboard? or is he lying about cheating?

[HeartIsAching]

No, you shouldn't forgive him. Yes, you should just drop him and move on.