You are not wrong to be a bit on the needy side. You are wrong to expect her to understand your needs and meet all of them. She is not you, and you are not she. You cannot expect someone else to react how you would. That is where communication comes in. You can talk to them and express how it's important that she does X or Y when you get home, or that you really needed to talk, it was not a minor thing.
If you talk to her about your needs over and over, and she still cannot meet your needs, your relationship has a limited lifespan.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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