How do men deal with sexual desires alone?

**oldskool83** · 02-02-12, 03:18 AM

this question is lame, anyone can go with out anything if they choose...

**filler** · 02-02-12, 01:24 PM

Originally Posted by HeartIsAching

I can't answer for "men", just me.

And the answer for me is "not well or easily." I did it for a few years, in a bad pseudo-relationship I stupidly had hopes of re-kindling.

Well you've answered my question then! glad to know that both men and women are almost the same when it comes to love and sex

**filler** · 02-02-12, 01:28 PM

Originally Posted by oldskool83

this question is lame, anyone can go with out anything if they choose...

May be for you it's lame because you're a guy and know yourself, but not for me, cuz like I said, I've heard stories ok

?! If you grew up without mom and no sisters but just with men you also would ask questions about women, I'm pretty sure.

There is a guy who has been single for a while now, let's say couple of years, looking at him I'd say he is the type who wouldn't be a single but then again after reading all the other comments I said may be he really hasn't been seeing anyone and that's probably the reason for his depression, alchohol and drug abuse lol, I learned something here and this topic helped me greatly in solving the mystery about men

**oldskool83** · 02-02-12, 07:26 PM

there are guys who wants nothing to do with women also...alot of my friends are this way, they are totaly dateble but they wont even hump a girl....cuz of the problems women like to stirr up.

**Incognito** · 02-02-12, 08:39 PM

I don't know what kinds of guys you hang around oldskool, but most guys would have sex if they could. They'd pass on any kind of relationship, but definitely take the sex. After all, how many problems can a woman stir up during a sexual encounter?

**oldskool83** · 02-02-12, 09:20 PM

prob my town, most women are not worth the hassel to talk to around me lol. i got 3 friends who wants nothing to do with women, they range from 28 to 37. i go thru spirts where i wont even talk to women, but if i do yeah id bone them no prob then peace.

everyone knows that 1 guy who just gives up.....everyone.

**IndiReloaded** · 02-02-12, 10:03 PM

Originally Posted by Mathias

We masturbate.

Also channeling that energy into work or sports seems to be common.

**oldskool83** · 02-02-12, 10:27 PM

or hobbies and gym. clears ppls minds.

**Incognito** · 03-02-12, 03:33 AM

Originally Posted by IndiReloaded

Also channeling that energy into work or sports seems to be common.

Maybe so, but there's nothing like being able to say "that's a load off my mind". Doing extra work can never quite take the place of sexual gratification.

**filler** · 03-02-12, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by Incognito

Bwhahaha! [coughing] Excuse that outburst... Um, yeah... I have gone for six months using only toys and porn as a married man. Around that time I wanted "the real thing" though, mainly because I saw my wife every day. When I was single, and younger, I masturbated all the time. I started masturbating at 11 [?] with no visual aid (except imagination), was able to buy porn at 16 (because I could pass for much older), and got married at 21 (which didn't really change my sexual situation, but that is another story). So can a male get by with just masturbation for years? Yes. If he has to. Would a starving person settle for eating animal crackers and water to survive? Yes, but would immediately go for a steak dinner if it was possible. Both situations are one and the same.

So Mr. Incognito, excuse my curiousity but if you don't mind me asking, why did you go through that torture for 6 months? I mean if you hated your wife that much, and wanted to have sex so badly for real, then why didn't you just find another lady to do it with? I always thought that men cheated on their wives, whenever they saw an opportunity for that and especially in your case, why wouldn't you cheat on her as well? Thanks !

**Wakeup** · 03-02-12, 09:15 AM

Are you writing a grade 10 paper on male sexuality? Why would you think that men (all of them) cheat on their wives? What experience do you have that would give you that impression?

**Incognito** · 03-02-12, 09:32 AM

Originally Posted by filler

So Mr. Incognito, excuse my curiousity but if you don't mind me asking, why did you go through that torture for 6 months? I mean if you hated your wife that much, and wanted to have sex so badly for real, then why didn't you just find another lady to do it with? I always thought that men cheated on their wives, whenever they saw an opportunity for that and especially in your case, why wouldn't you cheat on her as well? Thanks !

That is a rather bleak view of the ability of men to be faithful. Not all men cheat at any given opportunity, nor do all men cheat when they aren't happy with their sex lives within a relationship.

You're also assuming that I didn't have sex because I hated my wife. At the time I didn't. She simply never, ever initiated sex. Further, she didn't talk about sex, mention sex, or miss it. Sure she'd 'let me have it', but having sex with someone who doesn't really desire me sexually makes me feel like a rapist. I.E. if I wanted to have sex with women who didn't want to have sex with me I'd simply rape them. That notion doesn't appeal to me in the slightest. If you really want to have an in depth discussion about this pm me. Otherwise I'll be telling a story that many here have heard before, and I'm sure they'd appreciate it if I spared them.

**Incognito** · 03-02-12, 09:35 AM

Originally Posted by Wakeup

Are you writing a grade 10 paper on male sexuality? Why would you think that men (all of them) cheat on their wives? What experience do you have that would give you that impression?

Filler, I am curious about this as well. There has to be a reason you think the way you do.

**IndiReloaded** · 03-02-12, 11:22 AM

The numbers say ~1/2 of men and ~1/4 of women have cheated. US numbers, mind. Tho, I seem to remember reading the numbers for females are actually higher. The numbers based on paternal discrepency (kids from fathers not the husband) say 3.7% median. Which could just mean females are better at hiding their cheating and are careful to not get pregnant:

[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adultery[/url]

**surfhb** · 03-02-12, 12:56 PM

Originally Posted by filler

it's not so easy to admit but I wouldn't be able to explain it any other way I guess, as i was growing up i've seen a lot of married men sleeping with my mom, of course I didn't see it while they were doing it but you know what your family memer does behind the closed doors anyways but that's where this impression comes from, until recently I thought the only thing men care about is sex and not having a father figure in the family have to learn stuff here.

Doesnt help your outlook on life when your Mother's a slut too

joking but my point is that it takes 2 to tango darlin! Its been proven time and time again that both sexes cheat almost equally

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