How do you men do it mostly?

[johnfisher]

There is a lesson I've learnt and witnessed first hand in life. I have yet to meet any couple who ended up having an unplanned baby regretting it. But I have met many people who wanted a planned baby and couldn't and are miserable now. Once you're at a mature age, physically and mentally, which is probably 20 or thereabouts, I'd let nature do it's thing.

[BoredGeorge]

I'm am starting to feel like I might be ready to have sex, and one of the many reasons why I refused to be in a relationship before is I'm scared to get prego just like i'm scared of dying, it would ruin my whole life. I knew about the existence of the condoms and still thought it was pretty risky, plus not having any knowledge about sex i just decided to not bother with it and many risks and problems that sex entails with itself, but right now it feels like I can't hold back any longer so I need to know.

I asked a few guys (my friends) how do they usually have sex and if they use condoms and they said that they don't use any but do it very carefully, (plus this is what they do in porno videos they don't use any protection, i was so socked when i watched one) now my question is how many people really have sex without a condom? If i get a boyfriend and ask him to use condoms would it be too much to ask or is it pretty normal to do it without any protection? I mean do most men refuse to use it and feel like not having sex if they use protection?

thanks in advance to everyone!!!

Being pregnant is good. You get to be a drama queen about it if you like and then just take a pill to get rid of the baby.

As a female you're pretty much socially expected to squeeze out a kid at some point and then prevent it from dieing for the next 10 years or so. Plus pregnancy is a great way to trap a man into supporting you.

[BoredGeorge]

I'm old enough, you wouldn't beleive it, but I wasn't interested in sex untill recently, I've been sexually assulted when I was 7 and a few times after that and ever since then didn't even wanna do anything that was related to sex or even think about it, because just the thought of it would make me wanna puke, if a guy tried to tell me that he kinda had a crush on me I would try to kill that guy, I was that bad lol but recently (2years ago) I started to feel attraction towards the opposite sex and started to see the wet dreams i never had before, (I think now i'm going through a puperty even though i'm not a teenager), still didn't wanna risk it cuz there are a lot of things that sex entails like disease, pregnancy,etc, etc, plus I didn't trust guys anyways , so didn't do my homework before, and I have to ask common sense and idiotic questions here now, I wanna make sure to know all the details ok!?

Mentally I would say I'm somewhere 13-18 depending on the topic but biologically I'm much, much older.

I think you need to see a psychiatrist about this. Not one of those nut back quack therapists of psychologists or whatever but a real doctor who has seen mental problems before. The whacos on this forum are basically a bunch of feminist trolls and won't give you intelligible advice.

Best of luck,.

[smackie9]

Being pregnant is good. You get to be a drama queen about it if you like and then just take a pill to get rid of the baby.

As a female you're pretty much socially expected to squeeze out a kid at some point and then prevent it from dieing for the next 10 years or so. Plus pregnancy is a great way to trap a man into supporting you.

Don't incourage people to have more babies, there's enough of them on this planet.