BACK STORY:
I started talking to this guy online over a YEAR ago now. It was originally thought I would be moving back to my hometown (where he lives) so I looked online at that time for people to talk to from there, with the idea I'd know someone once I moved. I didn't move when planned, but we kept talking. We usually talk every day via text/MSN and maybe once a week chat on the phone. When we first started talking, I was a lot smaller, so he saw those pics from when I was around 160lbs. Regardless, we have many of the same interests, have about the same personality type and seem to get along well. We talk about most everything and consider each other friends.
Recently, I have moved to the same town as him. He has asked me to meet him and I kept saying yeah we will, the main thing holding me back is my weight (at this moment, 238lbs). A little while ago I was honest and I told him that since we had started talking, I had gained weight. I flat out said I am apprehensive to meet him because of my weight. He said 'it didn't matter to him'...he has seen pics of me how I am now and I guess the pics don't show just how large I am, so he keeps telling me I am not fat. I'm realistic and I know how I look. I wanted to meet him and think we might get along well, but I don't want him to open up that door and go holy ****!!! I have told him that I am dieting and working out and that I won't be the same size in 6 months as I am now...and he kinda brushes off what I say. It kind of bothers me that I am trying to be honest with him so he won't be shocked out of his mind, and he doesn't believe me.
Fast forward a week, and we met. We were supposed to meet in a few days and hang out for a long period of time but I told him I would prefer a quick meet before then to see if we get along. No sense meeting up with someone and having to stick around when you don't get along.
Anyways, he mentioned to me he was going to grab something quick to eat, so I offered to pick him up, drive him there and drop him back off home. Just something really quick, and we could chat while we drive. It went ok, I was very nervous, he said he wasn't too nervous. He is shy so I just kept trying to keep the conversation going. He asked if I was still going to meet up with him later this week. And by the end we were joking around and seeming to get along. When I went to drop him off at his house he made a comment about his place and asked if I wanted to come in to see it. I said no.
He texted me about 5 minutes later asking me if I had relaxed yet. I couldn't help it and I replied so I'm a pretty big fatty eh? And he replied how he couldn't tell, it was dark in the vehicle. I said you can still tell if someone is big or not!!
FAST FORWARD A FEW DAYS:
I had texted him in the morning, asking if it was still okay that I come over. He said yes, that the invitation was still there. Then for some reason I texted him in the afternoon to make sure that I could come over, he again said yes. Then for whatever reason, I texted him again in the evening. I think I was expecting him to text me to confirm that I was still coming over, but he didn't. So I explained to him that I thought he would be asking me what time I would be coming and he FREAKED OUT! He asked me how many times I needed to confirm he was wanting me to come over, and obviously it was clear I didn't want to come over, and that he wasn't going to beg me to come over. Then he told me he didn't want to see me tonite, and not to show up because he wouldn't answer the door.
I know him pretty well, and he has told me he can have a (non-violent) bad temper sometimes, and if he ever gets angry, he gets ANGRY, but to leave him alone for a bit and he calms down. So I tried to leave him alone. We texted a bit late in the evening and he said he was less mad at me, and him being angry at me wouldn't affect later hangings out. He seems to put up with my insanity pretty good, and I can deal with him freaking out. I did pretty much provoke it. It is obviously his personality, and it's easier to accept people as they are than to try to change them!
He is a very honest, straight forward person and will definitely let you know when he doesn't like something or is angry. When I start acting silly about things, he usually shuts me right down, and I need someone like that. Do you think that if he is putting up with all my BS, that he is interested in me at all (in any capacity)? How do I calm the hell down?