Unsure relationship

[Jabba]

About 6 months ago I met an amazing man when I was late for the bus stop, and felt an instant attraction as well as connection as we got to talking and talked the entire bus ride long. In the course of conversation I learned his full name, so I looked him up on Facebook. He knew that I was interested in him, and told me that we could only be friends since he had a girlfriend. Still, in the next 2 months or so he would occasionally reach out to me, messaging me or texting me, inviting me out for drinks. Eventually he texted me a more forward message that led me to ask if he still had a girlfriend to which he replied no. We started seeing each other once every two weeks, then once a week, and finally spent a Friday night out on the town together and a full Saturday in the countryside outside of our city, hiking and wine tasting. Although we have never kissed or been intimate physically he was touchy during the hike, at one point grabbing my butt. I am herpes 2 positive so I approach sex and dating very methodically, with clear goals, and don't like to be intimate without great knowledge of the other person, and my own revelation. On the drive back he asked me to go see a movie, which I took as a positive sign that we were able to spend the whole day together in great happiness and peace. I was certainly giddy to be with him. I posted a picture of the two of us at the peak of the climb on Facebook, which he had disabled months before. I was happy about our budding relationship, and I guess I figured I wouldn't get caught. We had already made plans to go out the next weekend, fishing with his roommate and a friend (male). These plans were canceled and our new plans also fell through due to extenuating circumstances. We texted lightly every day that week until Friday when he told me that he didn't want to go through with our plan C. He had reactivated facebook that morning and probably seen that my profile picture was of the two of us. He texted me that "it ain't me babe," which I interpreted to mean that he was telling me I was in the "friend zone." Previously in the "cold" moments of our relationship he had also said things like "you'll just be another sigh I breathe as I walk down the streets of Maine," his way of telling me after he lost his job that he was considering moving back home. On our hike he told me that he was considering the economics and thought he might stay, since he'd gotten a new job.
These periods of hot and cold in our relationship is driving me crazy. I have started to develop strong feelings for him, and have stopped seeing other people regularly. This man, let's call him Bob, and I have fireworks between us - witty conversation, meaningful looks, and genuine laughter.
In my anger at his arrogance, and his leading me on (if he really doesn't have feelings), only to tell me that I was in the "friend zone" I told him that it was okay because I had herpes. I told him this to make myself feel better because I wanted him to feel like I had never taken him seriously by not telling him. In reality my feelings have grown quite strong but I don't know if this is really a great situation. I'd like to know what you think of the situation in general, and if I should just move on or if his stagnancy may be based on insecurity, and if I should assuage his ultimate fear of rejection by being frank about my feelings.

Thanks

[smackie9]

Usually if the feeling is mutual, there is no guessing what the other is thinking and a relationship will develop. I can't tell you what is going through his mind or how he sees your relationship. If you need to know you will have to talk to him yourself and get it out of the way. Then you will know how to proceed.

[smackie9]

It must be difficult to date with having herpes......STD's carry such a stigma, especially these days. If things don't work out or if you find yourself having a difficult time finding someone, there are dating site specifically for people with herpes.