My girlfriend is a prostitute

[bulrush]

Ok. I'm a little more open-minded when it comes to sex. Yes, she lied, because she assumed you would not approve of her new job. That's a valid reason to lie about something so sensitive, at least it's very sensitive in the US. So, I would not count that against her. She did do you a big favor by saving your house. That is one piece of evidence that shows she cares about you.

The flip side is about disease. In Germany and other countries, even in the legal brothels in Nevada in the US, all clients wear a condom to prevent disease. So while the risk of disease is reduced, it is not gone. (I've seen documentaries about the Nevada brothels and the ones in Germany.)

So, if you two truly care about each other, why not give it a go? Are there other red flags we should know about? Prostitutes are people and they need love too.

[Amber2011]

Dabbler, I've been in your situation, except that I knew from the start what I was getting into. I tried to help her stop hooking and get into a more legitimate career, for her sake and the sake of her kids. But it was too hard for her to give up on the easy money and flexible hours. At one low point, I was even driving her on calls. It was horrible sitting in the car, trying not to think about what was happening inside, and worrying about what I would need to do if there was trouble. To make matters worse, she coped with her lifestyle by doing drugs. Before I met her, it was cocaine. After I met her, she started smoking meth. After we broke up, she fell in love with a heroin dealer. About once every six months, she stole from me. One time, it was an all-out burglary with help from her friends. More often, it was petty stuff like stealing from my wallet or selling some of my CDs. When she finally went to jail for a year, I moved on. I really wanted to make a difference, at least for her kids, but it was too painful. If you are unhappy with the situation, just know that it's not going to get better until she is too old to compete with the other women. If I were you, knowing what I know now, I would run from her as fast as possible.

You sound like a very loving and caring young man - nice looking too and I hope you have found a lady worthy of you and if not, I hope you find a decent, lovely lady soon.

As for the OP can't help thinking he's got his cake and eating it. Seems to me he's happy with the way things are and doesn't really have a problem.

[HeartIsAching]

If it's true that your FATHER exists, then it is EQUALLY true that GOD exists..

What a ludicrous statement. I can look at, point to and touch my father. I cannot do so with the invisible man in the sky, no more than I can with fairies, elves, sprites, leprechauns or any other fairy tale creatures.

[bothside]

What a ludicrous statement. I can look at, point to and touch my father. I cannot do so with the invisible man in the sky, no more than I can with fairies, elves, sprites, leprechauns or any other fairy tale creatures.

hehe.. GOD is not a man or flesh to be felt or touched physically... however, he responded to many people in the history. History clearly tell us everything what god had done... like talking to kings, rulers, pharoahs, prophets etc., and instructing to people on earth.. and in wonderful way through JESUS.. he lived with us and among us..

If you believe only after seeing or finding the proof, then there's no meaning to BELIEF..

The time and history clearly states that Jesus existed on earth. The reasons for jesus coming on earth, dying on cross for our sins and his resurrection.. clearly indicates that god existed... did the world find his dead body ??? Isn't this supernatural matter ???

Just read the bible, you'll not regret it.. you will get complete knowledge about what's/why/how/ happening, past/present/future and you'll even get more knowledge than the SCIENCE...

I'm talking all this with No hard feelings but with ABUNDANT LOVE :-)

[Dabbler]

Ok. I'm a little more open-minded when it comes to sex. Yes, she lied, because she assumed you would not approve of her new job. That's a valid reason to lie about something so sensitive, at least it's very sensitive in the US. So, I would not count that against her. She did do you a big favor by saving your house. That is one piece of evidence that shows she cares about you.

The flip side is about disease. In Germany and other countries, even in the legal brothels in Nevada in the US, all clients wear a condom to prevent disease. So while the risk of disease is reduced, it is not gone. (I've seen documentaries about the Nevada brothels and the ones in Germany.)

So, if you two truly care about each other, why not give it a go? Are there other red flags we should know about? Prostitutes are people and they need love too.

Yes, I hear what you are saying about diseases, in Australia all clients are supposed to wear condoms, but in reality some girls will go bare back behind closed doors. My GF always uses protection and is fully tested every month. I got myself tested and I do not have anything.

Dabbler, I've been in your situation, except that I knew from the start what I was getting into. I tried to help her stop hooking and get into a more legitimate career, for her sake and the sake of her kids.....

I feel for you Vincenzo and your sad story was what I feared when I first found out.
My GF says that no girl can do the job absolutely straight, she uses alcohol to numb herself and she does not and will not use drugs. If that were the case I would be out of there as quickly as possible, as it would be a downward spiral. She works at a brothel run by a business man with no criminal element or pimps and doesn't do escorts, so her safety is not a concern. She can refuse a client if she gets a bad vibe or for any reason at all.

I am not hanging in there because of material things, money is not a motivator at all for me, if I didn't want to be with her I would end it no matter what. She did this so we could stay together, if she hadn't we would have lost the house and split up anyway.

I do love her with all my heart and I know she loves me equally and strangely enough I feel more secure than I ever did before. I think we can make this work, it gets easier day by day.

[surfhb]

hehe.. GOD is not a man or flesh to be felt or touched physically... however, he responded to many people in the history. History clearly tell us everything what god had done... like talking to kings, rulers, pharoahs, prophets etc., and instructing to people on earth.. and in wonderful way through JESUS.. he lived with us and among us..

Can anyone prove those statements? No..they cant...therefore its not history...its folklore

[bothside]

Can anyone prove those statements? No..they cant...therefore its not history...its folklore

whaaaaaaaaattttt ???? I'm surprised to find you asking the proof for the statements... :-O

What is your educational qualification :-? Anyways, you can checkout wikipedia or any other document sources for all the proofs..

If you're still not satisfied.... have a tour in the middle countries.. you can see all the places of events that took place in the biblical times..

[bothside]

Thanks for your replies,
BTW. I have my own beliefs and I am too busy living life to find the time to read the greatest novel ever written. If you are going to get all judgemental, don't forget that Jesus didn't seem to mind that Mary Magdalene was a working girl.

Yes, mary magdalene was working girl... but she wasn't a prostitute or sinner.. and the prostitute who was caught.. Jesus didn't punish her.. but he called her with kind heart and forgiven her sins and said "do not go back into prostitution again "

it's fair to work but prostitution is not the only one... there are lots of good paying female oriented professions in this world..

my advices for her career

1. article writer
2. customer care executive
3. receptionist
4. assistant in hospitals / clinics
and the list goes on...

in addition, she can always find a method to earn online..

Seems like you've got used to spend her "body trading" money.. if not, you would have definitely tried to place her in a secure work place...

However regarding the beliefs:

I respect your beliefs :-) but take time to find if they are true.... and you took it as novel :-O it isn't novel.. it's a word of god.. and god's letter to show his love for you... and it takes roughly 72 hours to completely read the bible..


Anyways, as you don't have enough time.... I have a sermon saved for you.. lots of my friends have went through the sermon, repented and came back to god leaving their past sinful life.. I pray that god talks to you also through this sermon.

http://www.crcna.org/pages/bierman_gen3.cfm

Here's a video of our church crusades.. millions of people are being saved...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JbeGvaHiZeo

Translation included in video description..

God is calling you with his gracious kind heart, come.. I will forgive your sins, cleanse your heart, make you holy and make you my son and a citizen of heaven to live with me forever and ever...

will you come to god today to change your life... will you give a place to god in your heart ?


P.S.: I'm definitely going to pray for you both and I'm one of the persons who is seeking for your happyness and see you leading a meaningful life..

[surfhb]

whaaaaaaaaattttt ???? I'm surprised to find you asking the proof for the statements... :-O

What is your educational qualification :-? Anyways, you can checkout wikipedia or any other document sources for all the proofs..

If you're still not satisfied.... have a tour in the middle countries.. you can see all the places of events that took place in the biblical times..

No....I'm talking about Proof that God communicates with earthly beings numb nuts, not geographical location

Don't try to school me in religion. I was confirmed in the Orthodox Lutheran Church, so I have special distaste for Jesus Freaks. Haha!

Also, why do born again adaults always seem to have tumultuous pasts? That's a good topic of discussion

[oldskool83]

all is valid here, what your going to have to deal with is if your fine with different ment humping your g/f you love. now if and when you decide you want to get married can you handel that or is she going to be willing to stop. not saying you will get married but at sum point if your so in love id think you'd want to.

she did save your house...but then again unemployment can do the same thing.

[bothside]

No....I'm talking about Proof that God communicates with earthly beings numb nuts, not geographical location

Don't try to school me in religion. I was confirmed in the Orthodox Lutheran Church, so I have special distaste for Jesus Freaks. Haha!

Also, why do born again adaults always seem to have tumultuous pasts? That's a good topic of discussion

You're asking very simple questions but it's alright..i will answer them with patience...

now.. we cannot go into history to hear the voice of god.. but we can understand that he spoke those people by reading the bible.. bible itself is a written media of the events that happened to those people..

For Example... god talked to abram and asked to move from his actual location.. so he moved.. god talked to jacob and asked him to move from his location to other.. so he moved.. god renamed jacob to isreal... so.. his name was isreal... god gave visions to joseph... and it was fulfilled by his life in egypt... god spoke to moses in his wilderness, so he returned to egypt to free the hebrews from slavery..

and the events goes on.......... all the events happened by instructions from god and not by themselves...


If you are very interested in proofs, then you should definitely seek for them in all ways.. research online in wiki., read history about nations, compare with present situation, find out locations then and now..etc., you'll definitely find bible as a past/present/future book... and not a mere religious instructions..


Yeah... it's because they didn't knew the truth before..


if you still want to discuss, let's do it somewhere else.. and not in this thread... PEACE :-D

[AnnonymousMan]

My question is...okay you were going to be screwed on cash, but does sleeping with other men and breaking trust/fidelity justify being able to pay bills? Where in her mind does she justify this as okay? Does she have strong views and morals about her own sexuality or does she have low self esteem and view herself as nothing more than an object for cash? You really need to as her these questions. Best of luck to you man, but if her job bothers you and will inevitably destroy the two of you, she either needs to quit or you need to find somebody that not only won't lie to you, but will keep the trust/fidelity and has some better self esteem. Don't let this continually eat you alive, act NOW before she goes back out on the job.

EDIT: BTW, I want you to look up the psycology on why men get jealous or have negative feelings on why there woman sleeps with another guy. You might find it helpful.

[surfhb]

now.. we cannot go into history to hear the voice of god.. but we can understand that he spoke those people by reading the bible.. bible itself is a written media of the events that happened to those people..

For Example... god talked to abram and asked to move from his actual location.. so he moved.. god talked to jacob and asked him to move from his location to other.. so he moved.. god renamed jacob to isreal... so.. his name was isreal... god gave visions to joseph... and it was fulfilled by his life in egypt... god spoke to moses in his wilderness, so he returned to egypt to free the hebrews from slavery..

Again....youre talking about faith, not provable facts. You assume the Bible is the word of God based on your unwavering faith.

if you still want to discuss, let's do it somewhere else.. and not in this thread... PEACE :-D

No Thanks....Even if i wanted too, youre arguments are based on faith so there is no discussion....make sense? I prefer reasoning and the use of critical thinking skills Bye!

[HeartIsAching]

If you believe only after seeing or finding the proof, then there's no meaning to BELIEF..

There's another word for belief... or faith.

Gullible.

[HeartIsAching]

So, lemme get this straight:

The belief that a cosmic Jewish zombie who was his own father can make you live forever if you symbolically eat his flesh and telepathically tell him that you accept him as your master, so he can remove an evil force from your soul that is present in humanity because an evil rib-woman was convinced by a talking snake to eat from a magical tree doesn't strike you as preposterous?

Just askin'.