Hi. I am new to this site and i really need some good advice and maybe someone can shed some light on my problem.I was introduced to a wonderful man almost a year ago[IT WILL BE A YEAR THE DAY BEFORE EASTER}.We have always gotten along really well.We see each other everyday and he calls me 2-3 times a day and early evening.He invites me to come out for supper every night so he can cook for me.He always makes time for me and we spend week ends together.He is so good to me and always has been through this past year.The problem is I fell in love with him and he has never told me that he loves me.He always tells me that I'm a good woman,i like you alot and i care about you.He is not a expressive type of guy.I feel that he could truly love me through his actions and can't say the love word.I did tell him that i loved and cared about him.He replied to me"I think i love you too but i can't afford to have the same thing happen like it did with my ex wife,She cost me a lot of money.He has been divorced 6 years already and he has told me that his ex wife cheated on him,stole allof his money out of his accounts and would play pull tabs with her boyfriend at a bar in the small town they resided in.The day she left she piled the kitchen table with bills she was supposed to be paying but would spend his paychecks on pull tabs.I know that he still hurts from this,He owns his own business and works 70 hours a week in the summer time and its slower in the wintertime.We never spent a whole lot of time together last spring/summer and another month he will be working those same hours again.Im hoping that he will miss me and have a chance to do some thinking about me.I wonder if it's really true about absence makes the heart grow fonder???I wrote a letter to him on sunday and told him how i felt about him and i would never hurt him and i;m not like his ex wife.I try so hard to reach his heart but it's locked in a vault and i can't reach it.He was in a relationship before and he told me that she left because he never told her that he loved her.He sometimes tells me that he thinks i will leave him and run off with someone else and he would never see me again.Since he is not the expressive guy i ask him questions about [us}.He tells me that everything is just fine and i'm worrying too much.He says that i make him happy and wonders if he does the same.We both make each other happy.I'm so confused,Can someone please tell me what he means when he tells me i like you a lot/i like you very much/i care about you/i care about you very much??I have heard that non expressive men show love through actions and he does that.I just don't know what to think.Maybe the love word will come out sooner or later and i know he is old fashioned.He told me he dated his ex wife two years before they got married.What is the difference between i like you alot and i care about you very much and loving someone??????They say loving and caring go hand in hand.Please advise me on my dilemma. Thanks so much,Sorry this was so long but didn't want to leave anything out.