Trying so hard to trust.....

[jason13]

Helloo Everybody, looking for out side opinions. To make a long story short, In the past i have been given lots of reason not to trust my girlfriend of 2.5yrs. Recently I have again struggled with this. She insists on having several guy friends whom she regularily talks/texts back and forth with and on occasion even hangs out with them. It isnt so much her being friends with them but I am very uncomfortable with what I have seen them talk to her about. One in particular whom she sees on a weekly bases at a local western bar/club and texts daily....recently invited her over to his house after the bar closed (2am). After she said she was not that kind of girl he said "your single now NBD"..."I was talking about playing monopoly so take it how you want ;-)" She said she confronted him and he said it was a joke but Guys do not joke about this stuff. And I was concerned about his comment of her being single and how he could possibly think this. Another (whom she dated/slept with 6-7yrs ago) has regularily called her "babe" "love" "Doll" He recently said he hasnt been able to get her off his mind for the last 6 years, and regularily texts her that he misses her, wants to see her, spend time with her. I told her this kind of stuff is innapropriate and she denies any wrong doing saying they are just friends and that nothing is going to happen. Regardless I said it should not be going on and that "friends" dont talk like that. And no matter what I am still uncomfortable with how they talk to her.

Am I out of line here? Am I just overly worried? I can provide much more info if needed. Im anxiously awaiting replies I really need advice on this.

[jason13]

this forum seems to be dead........

[swannynguyen92]

You can never trust a person 100% after you lost your belief once with them. And after the time she treated you like that, you can't trust her anymore, that's the naturally defense to prevent hurting of human. Just be straight to her that she have to choose. If she can handle it, you have to wait to find your belief in her again, but it takes a long time.