I need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together since may 2010. We have had a very happy relationship, no one has ever come between us, we have never argued or had a "break". We have been totally content and in love since day 1.
But lately ive noticed hes been looking at other girls pictures on facebook ... one girl he works with, who he sits in the same office all day with, and others who are far more beautiful than i am. Im pretty, but im overweight (im dieting, lost 4st since ive been with him) and in my opinion im nothing special.
He changed his hotmail password about 2 months ago and gave me the reason that he changes it all the time (he never has whilst ive been with him) and he said it was to stop him getting spam emails from when i log on to it to snoop at my works or home. I dont do it very often and its not snooping (he hates me going through his stuff), its just easing my mind that hes not doing anything he shouldnt be. He sometimes logs on it at my house anyway (so dont get the spam excuse?) and i have managed to sneak a look through his phone and his computer anyway .. i dont have anything to worry about as far as i can see and ive blocked certain email addresses who could get in touch if they wanted to (ex girlfriend)
But yeah back to the other girl thing .. ive only noticed hes being doing it for the past month or so (i couldnt look any further, i got upset with something), i logged onto his computer a few weeks ago when we were both off work and noticed hes doin it and saturday morning just gone when he was out with a friend and saw these girls hes been looking at. as well as porn too (doesnt bother me too much, i do it too) It hurt to see him look at these other girls though and made me feel like i wasnt good enough. It doesnt help that we now only have sex once or twice a week instead of every day like we used to.
What i didnt expect to find was him trying to search for his ex girlfriend (shes blocked on his facebook) but i think he unblocked her so he could take a look. he also searched for her on myspace and searched her name + naked on the end in google. it made me feel sick.
i let him know how i felt in an email yesterday, i couldnt keep it in. i asked why hes been so cold and distant for the past few month, looking at other girls (i said it didnt really bother me too much if it was just a look at them, i know its a boy thing) why he looked for his ex, told him he wouldnt be happy if i started searching for my ex's, told him what he means to me and if he didnt want me then to let me go. He sent me a text message back (he was out with friends so it was easier to text me) and said i was getting a bit clingy and needy and ive never been like that, that he was sorry for looking at his ex, he didnt really know why he done it, he guessed he was just wanting to see how better his life was now in comparison (to how it was with her) .. he said sorry a couple of more times and that he loves me and if we want this to be forever i gotta stop doubting him.
But i cant get rid of this pain in my heart, i cant get the thoughts out of my head that im not good enough for him.
Someone sort my head out please x