Hi there. Well, I've come here because I've really failed at the dating game. I'm 23 and have never had a girlfriend. I'm hoping to get a woman's perspective on my situation.
I've always thought that I'd be able to figure it out eventually, but I've finally realized that I need some help with this. On top of this I've been feeling increasingly lonely and, although I wouldn't go as far as calling it depression, I've certainly been down on life lately.
I don't just want some random hook-up or one night stand. I've been down that road before thinking it was the answer to my problems, but it wasn't. It was just really unfulliling and it didn't help my confidence like I thought it would.
There's been two women in my life that I really cared about, so much so that I felt compelled to tell them how I felt. I was rejected by both of them and unfortunately I'm no longer friends with them. Following these experiences I turned to the internet to try and meet women. At first I was able to meet a few but I never made it past the first date. I myself thought the dates went alright, but none were interested in seeing me again.
But perhaps the worst experience happened about a year ago when I met a girl who was actually interested in me. At first it seemed to be going well. We went out a few times and she seemed to really like me. I even heard from a few of her friends that she really liked me.
But there were some problems. She lived a ways away and we were rarely able to get together (we talked on the phone a lot but I only saw her in person twice). Then I found out that she had some family problems (her mom was pretty abusive to her) and she usually turned to alchohol to deal with these problems. This didn't scare me off and I tried to offer her advice, but she seemed unwilling to do anything to deal with her issues other than drink.
She had made it clear from the start she was looking for something long term and so when I realized that this wasn't the type of person I wanted to be with I decided it was best for both of us to end it. She was crushed and really hurt, and I felt awful. In fact, I would say it felt worse than when I had been rejected.
That was really my last attempt to find a girlfriend. It just seems like any time I get involved with someone one of us ends up getting hurt. Despite this though I really want to try again, but I don't know where to start.
Where can I meet women? The club scene is not for me and every time I go I just end up drinking by myself while my friends try and get laid. I work with all men and I usually hang out with the same group of friends. I never seem to find myself in a situation where I can meet women.
And ladies, would you want to date someone so inexperienced? Would you think it's weird that I've never had a girlfriend?
Anyways, sorry for the long post, but it feels good to vent a little bit. If anyone has any advice or words of encouragement I'd really appreciate it. Thanks for reading.