HI THERE! I am engaged to a man that I dated 12 years ago when i was still in high school. He found me on Facebook and we we rekindled that old flame. Now, we are engaged, expecting a child together and now things are not what they seemed to be. Now, I have a daughter from a previous relationship. Her father and i are cordial with each other and are therefore able to hold a conversation with each other. There have been times when our conversations have gotten pretty heated and my fiance witnessed me crying and upset when I get off the phone. So, now he doesn't want me to talk to her dad at all. It's like if the conversation lasts more than 30 seconds then its a problem. I try to tell him that he is still her dad and that we have to talk when it comes to the welfare of her. My fiance is non understanding and will walk away m.ad and won't talk to me for a couple day
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11-05-12, 12:57 AM #1
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Is it worth it?
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11-05-12, 01:04 AM #2
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STrange... Is he feeling insecure about you and your ex? Have you tried to reassure him?
Or would you mind sharing more info, I have the feeling there is more to this...
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11-05-12, 01:11 AM #3
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Its best to be friendly with all of your babies daddies so your babies are'nt seeing dysfunctional interaction betwee two supposed adults. If your conversations with your first baby daddy is not civil or friendly then perhaps you should keep your conversations to the subject of your child and keep the drama at bay. Your now baby daddy wouldn't like it if you didn't talk to him now that you're going to have a child together... how would he like it if you have another babby daddy after him and he won't let you talk with him for more than 30 seconds?
Wowzer!
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11-05-12, 02:31 AM #4
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Tell your fiance to grow the hell up. The silent treatment is childish.
Your conversations with your previous baby daddy shouldn't involve tears. Set some boundaries there, and hang up on that jerk if he can't keep things civil.
Also, learn about assertiveness and stop being a doormat.Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.
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11-05-12, 02:34 AM #5
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Id be willing to bet your Ex and Fiance are very similar personality wise?
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11-05-12, 02:38 AM #6
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I was thinking the same thing as I finished my previous post.
Originally Posted by surfhb
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.
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11-05-12, 03:32 PM #7
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you got it
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