Originally Posted by
smackie9
Just let it go. You were not dating, you were just hanging out. All that time there was no making out or sex right? Just spending time together just like good friends do. Remember back when you gave her all those gifts? Obviously that was a message to her that you wanted a relationship with her am I right? Her tears were not of joy dude, they were tears of sadness because she knew all along where it was heading. She feared that all this attention you have been giving her will be cut off, her emotional gravy train. She had to tell you no. And she did......you are friend zoned, BF without benefits, someone to be emotionally attached to till she meets someone she wants as her BF. You should have walked, but you didn't, so you only have yourself to blame for this. You should never have agreed to be "just friends" if you were expecting more. YOU made that choice. Basically you both were free to date whomever you want because you two are "just friends". So what the hell are you doing? Hoping? When a girl says "friends" it over, done, finished. She lied to you because she knows how you feel about her. Girls do not like confrontation, she knew this would piss you off so she made up a bull sh it story to get out of that place you put her in last February. She is an idiot to think that "just being friends" with you would work, knowing how much you wanted a relationship with her. So now she knows and she has backed off completely....the emotional, BF without benefits gravy train has run dry....she jumped off.
My advice, stop investing your time into someone that won't ever date you. Just leave it alone, cut off ties and move on. And don't do it again. If you like someone, ask them out on a date, not this taking it slow or hoping she will figure it out...that's stupid. All it will get you is cast into the friends zone again. Make sure your intentions are clear, verbally, stop being a lackey. As soon as they say "friend" ditch them, go find someone else. Please read the [url]http://www.relationshiptheory.com/2009/03/17/the-ladder-theory/[/url]