I think my gf is having an afare :(

[iamaninnocentma]

Hi everyone, Ive been with my gf for approx 2 years now, and i think she might be cheating on me. Yesterday , when we usually have our monthly "cuddle" she said she had a headache, and also last week she went out all dressed up covered in too much make up. When i asked where she was going, she became all defensive and made up some story about going to the movies with a gf. I know this was a lie because i checked her phone and found a message form a man saying "cant wait to see you. And again tonight she went out again , leaving me to fend for myself and she hadnt even prepared me any food.

I think i might be loosing her, andi dont know what to do, yesterday i even stole her some flowers from next doors garden to try be romantic and she just complained that she didnt like the colour of them. she also has a "secret" facebook account thats "private" that i found when i searched her laptop after she went out. Im lost here. any ideas?

[TeeJay19]

I think it's pretty obvious you need to dump her. She's cheating on you and just not into you any more. I've never heard of a girl turning down flowers because they did'nt like the color. Go find yourself a women who actually cares about you.

[Boisdevie]

She's probably shagging the other guy because she's bored with preparing your food.

[surfhb]

You sound like such a class act. What a bitch for leaving you....youre better off

[iamaninnocentma]

I think it's pretty obvious you need to dump her. She's cheating on you and just not into you any more. I've never heard of a girl turning down flowers because they did'nt like the color. Go find yourself a women who actually cares about you.

wow. thanks for the rply, but i would appreciete it if you didnt call my gf a cheat. im only about 50% sure so i dont no how you can be so certin. The problem with the flowers was she doesnt like yellow flowers. which isnt so strange. maybe you should look at your own gf before judging others. thanks anyway

[bluesummer]

My thoughts exactly, Boisdevie.

[iamaninnocentma]

You sound like such a class act. What a bitch for leaving you....youre better off

she hasnt left me. thanks for the kind words tho. i am a class act. but please dont call my gf a bitch. shesnice really, she works 3 jobs and has 2 cats and me to look after.

[bluesummer]

Ok I need to know........why the hell is she 'looking after' you!?!?!? Are you incapable of looking after yourself?

That's your first problem. She probably doesn't want a man she has to mother or support.

[iamaninnocentma]

we look after each other, she makes me a sandwich and washes my clothes and i change lightbulbs etc. we were a good team for a long time, just recently shes been acting strange. even the cats have noticed. maybe shes just having a mid life crisis. im hoping for this. another problem is all her family dont really like me, apart from her sister. but i never went near her. one time at a wedding, she tried to kiss me, but shes not even as pretty as her ssister (my gf)

[bluesummer]

Rarely are these things one-sided. People don't usually just decide that they are done with a relationship for no good reason. Have you thought about factors in your relationship that would cause her to look elsewhere? No one is the perfect partner and I'm quite certain you have your faults too, the question is can you own up to them.

[iamaninnocentma]

yeah, thanks summer, you speak some sense, but tbh i dont really have many faults. im pretty much the perfect bf. in 2 years i only cheated on her once, and she doesnt even know about it, so it cant be that. i was hoping people could give me advice about how to catch her, if she is cheating. i need proof, one way or the other. the thing is, if we break up, ill have to go find a job, because at the moment my gf is the only earner. i just dont think im ready for all that. im only 25

[rbarnez]

this guy is a douche!! thanks for the laughs! .. sounds like you may need to work on yourself though.. now I'm gonna go prepare myself a sandwich!!

[iamaninnocentma]

this guy is a douche!! thanks for the laughs! .. sounds like you may need to work on yourself though.. now I'm gonna go prepare myself a sandwich!!

im a douche? why? i wanted advice, not judged. enjoy your sandwich

[rbarnez]

im a douche? why? i wanted advice, not judged. enjoy your sandwich

The sandwich should be delicious. Hope the cats don't want any!!! :o)

[MaidenMinx]

ONLY 25?! You have to be kidding me! Your gf works 3 jobs, cooks for you, does your washing and you change a few light bulbs, steal flowers and stay home with the cats... Ooh you're a catch, I'm sure! She is writhe cheating out setting herself up to. You have 2 choices, grow up, be a man and win her back or wuss out and wait for her to leave. Simple.