Originally Posted by
confusedboy1992
The girl then said she isnt ready for a relationship because she needs has so much going on and its not fair on me (she needs to concentrate on her studies and she's doing a lot of shifts at the restaurant she works at).
I don't know why the negativity about this girl. Frankly, she's done you a favour telling you she's busy and not ready for a relationship. Doesn't make her unstable. I don't read that from your post, just that she's very busy and possibly a bit overwhelmed. Which makes her confession to you all the more considerate. Unless you think she doesn't mean it, in which case she's messing w/your head. But doesn't sound like it to me, esp. based on her mother's comment.
But then she told me not to go round her house unless she asks to see me, and she said she doesn't feel anything anymore.She then came to the bank I work at, but left before I had a chance to speak to her.
This part is sounding mean. I wonder, tho, did you pressure her a bit, perhaps? Especially the part 'unless she asks to see you'. You aren't a lap dog, to come at her beckon and call.
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