Hi everyone!
I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now. We were really close friends for about 2 years before he asked me out. He wasn't typically someone I would go out with..because we both work together, and he is 3 yrs younger than me (i'm 26 and he's 23). But I forgot about those things because we were such good friends and I always admired his character, and our maturity level appeared to be the same. So, I said yes when he asked me out.
Recently he has started a new project, and has gotten really busy. He easily works 10am-9pm most days, even on the weekends. This project will continue for the next 3 months. I feel really pushed aside and disconnected in the last few weeks since this project started. I feel like no matter how busy I am, I always have time to think about him, and text him. But he's terrible at multitasking, and likes to be left alone when he's working. So when he is busy, he is quite absent.
For example: I was on vacation for a week and just got back today (thurs)...so all I want to do is see him. He said he wants to catch up, but doesnt have time till next tue or wed..even though we live like a 3 min drive from each other (I dont have a car, but he does). He has to go to see his family this weekend, so the weekend doesnt work either. If it were me, I would compromise, and see my significant other fri night, and drive home early sat morning to see my family. I dont notice any such compromise. He says he comprises a lot..like he doesnt see a lot of his friends anymore. I feel bad telling him how I would compromise in these situations, because I never want to take him away from his family or friends. He is the very responsible type, so as soon as there are family engagements, he heads home to help out.
There has been other examples like this where I have felt very marginalized. I feel like he doesnt try hard enough to see me. When we talk about it, he says he really likes me a lot, but he has to make a career, and it upsets him that I am asking for so much time, when I know how much work he has. He says I am not being supportive of his career and his hardwork. I feel bad, because I always thought I am a supportive, understanding, reasonable gf.
The thing is, when we are together, he takes really good care of me. I do really like him a lot, which is why I am finding it hard to end it. But I dont really like things the way they are.
Would you guys stick it out, or move on? Am I being unreasonable asking for some compromise at 7 months of dating? Any advice would really help me. Thank you