Ladies: When Is It Your Obligation To Dump The Poor Sap Who's In Love With You?

[Jonah]

Here's the scenario: She thought she was in love with him and she told him so. Now they've been going out 15-18 months and she's not feeling the same way anymore. She likes him alot, enjoys his company and so on and does love him in a way, but she doesn't think he's the guy that she wants to spend the rest of her life with. On the other hand, he's falling more in love with her every day. He thinks she's the best thing that ever happened to him and ever will happen to him and wants a future with her. She knows this and is just kind of going along with it. At some point does it become her obligation to tell him how she really feels and/or move on? If so, how long until she has to drop the bomb? I would appreciate your considered opinions. Thanks!

[Cerby]

As a guy, the right time is as soon as you know you don't feel the same about each other. But people sometimes carry on wasteful relationships for years...

[searock]

I agree with Cerby, as a girl who was in the same situation as she is. She should tell him as soon as she's 100% sure that she isn't in love with him anymore. There's no point in lying, it does only harm in the long run.

[Angellic]

Tell him now before he wastes any more time with someone who doesn't feel the same way. 18 months into a relationship is crunch time. You either end it or you move it to the next level. You are going to have to be cruel to be kind. He'll hate you, but one day he will see it was the right decision; or he'll just turn into a bitter and twisted commitment phobe.