Porn Addiction

[skeeziix]

I posted before about this but it is really starting to concern me. I love my boyfriend but I have serious doubts. He will come home and immediately get on his laptop, which he has password protected. I know he is looking at porn because I saw his internet history. Makes me sad that he would rather run off and please himself when he can have the real thing, makes me feel like shit. I am attractive but he makes me feel ugly and undesirable. What should I do confront him, ask him to go to counseling, or just move on? This is not the first of issues we've had. I just feel I can't trust him period.

[Boisdevie]

We need more information.
1. Does he wack off to porn every night even when you're there?
2. What other 'issues' have you had?
3. Why do you think you can't trust him?

[berryb]

Porn addiction is very serious. I myself have had struggled with it, consuming it even when in a relationship. Be assured that is not that you do not please him (as far as you both are intimidating), but that it is something that acts almost as a drug. I suggest you to face him about this, and to suggest him finding therapy about it. What I did to stop, was installing a porn filter for which I do not have the password to deactivate (I suggest K9 web protection, it works great).

[skeeziix]

He will wake up in the middle of the night, wait for me to leave, he will go into the computer room act like he is doing something else... I just feel like I am not good enough, ya know? I mean we barely have sex. Wouldn't you want the real thing? I have even offered to watch it with him. Or ask about his fetishes.

[oldskool83]

hes additcted, he should be additcted to you. take the computer and say either you get help, and destroy this or i leave.

[Boisdevie]

You need to communicate your worries with him. If he does not respond in a way acceptable to you then you know what decision you have to take.

[skeeziix]

I have confronted him and he lies about it. Like um I know what your doing I seen the history in your browser. I guess I will have to try to talk to him tonight about it and just say that I think he needs help. I just hate being lied to right to my face the most. IDK. I feel like kicking him out of my house. That's the other thing he lives in my house its on my internet. Worthless. I am not opposed to porn but when it is taking away from my satisfaction and ability to feel desired that is just wrong.