same gf but different issue

[jj102885]

Is it wrong to have girl or Guy friends that you have known for years that persist to make innapropriate comments through text. If a friend of your jokes about you two having sex and you two talk about how that window isn't open anymore but persist to talk to this person isn't it wrong to still get together for lunch etc. Isn't that uncomfortable for the other person even if that Guy who made the comment has a gf ? Or in case two Guy flirting in text like wow you are cute and have a nice ass? Stuff like that....she says this is how they ha e always been even when single. How does one deal with that. I don't want to not haveher talk to these guys but its not comments friends make.
She says I guess ill just have no friends, I'm saying to her I don't care she has Guy friends especially from before me but its not right to be talking about sex or that these guys want you and not as friends. My gf has been single for a long time now and is used to flirting and seeing other people at same time and not having to respect others feelings so I think this is new to her but I feel like I'm a jealous crazy boyfriend because she does not seem to think anything of it...

[jj102885]

Any advice. Am I overreacting?

[VincenzoG91]

Her friend isn't really a friend. He's a vulture, waiting around to see if your relationship dies soon. Does she have mostly guy friends? That's a red flag.

[jj102885]

She is 29 now and has been single assentially since 2003, always lived free from there on out just dating sleeping around playing the field. Over the years she gained Guy friends even ones just that u talk to on fb. The two I mentioned was one that was friends for years...they slept over each others house in the past...no sex she says maybe a kiss. They don't get together anymore but will text, he has a gf but texts like this to her joking being funny...the other is just a friend from high-school that never in that level but he doesn't live close at all. She has gf for sure but Guy friends too. She insists but he isn't single, or why can't guys and girls just be friends..

[Cerby]

How do I say this nicely...2 major issues is 2 days, both involving other guys who are "just friends" or "just porn". You confront, she denies and then bounces back to BS lines like "I guess I'll just have no friends then". Time to cut this bitch loose and find someone who respects what you want in a relationship.

[Cerulean.]

Wow, she's 29? This whole time I pictured you two being in your teens.

I have TONS of guy friends. It's not always a red flag. Just depends on how the person and their friends are. Her guy friends are obviously wanting to bang her and your girlfriend and the guys use each other to get an ego boost. I'm guessing that because that's how some of my guy friends and I used to act in HIGH SCHOOL.

Please, dump this loser. She is 29 and acting this way? You can do much better.

[searock]

WHAT, she is 29?! I also thought you two were really young! Dude, what she does is completely inappropriate. I've always had many guy friends, I know what friendship between a guy and a girl is like. She isn't "friends" with this guy - she is FLIRTING with him and leading him on. She probably has self-esteem issues, to need so much attention from any guy willing to give her any. I think you should break up with her for your own good.