Never seem to spend proper time with my girlfriend!

[berg101]

Hi everyone!

Basically me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 months now and we are both crazy about each other but the problem is we never seem to spend time alone, and if we arrange to spend time on our own without our friends one of her girlfriends always ends up trying to change the plans which then my girlfriend goes along with, so it goes from me seeing her all night to not seeing her at all. The problem is that she hates letting people down but then doesn't understand why I get pissed off when she bails on plans with me. She has been away for two weeks with friends and has been back now for 3 days and I have seen her once, and that was only when I picked her up from the airport and dropped her home. People's first impression of this will be 'she's not interested in you anymore' but believe me, she is! She hated being away from me for that two weeks.

Im only her second serious relationship and I think she walked all over her previous boyfriend, I'm not like that tho - if something is bothering me then I will tell her, but I just don't know what to do about this whole situation. For example a week ago my friend asked me to come see his band play on Sunday night and of course I said yeah but then yesterday my gf asks me to come over to hers for dinner with her family and for a nice night in - now bearing in mind I haven't seen her for two weeks I rung my friend and told him I couldn't go and told my girlfriend I'd come round for dinner. Anyway a couple of hours later she's been to see our mutual friend (her girlfriend that always tries to change plans) and this girl rings me and says that my girlfriend wants to come to this gig now, so I agree because I just want to see her so am not that bothered what we do - about an hour later I get a call off my girlfriend saying she can't go to the gig anymore, obviously I can't bail on my friend again so tell her that I am still going - she seemed more concerned with letting her friend down than actually letting me down which really annoyed me. It sometimes feels like there are more people in this relationship than me and her. She knows I'm pissed off with her because we had an argument last night but now I'm not sure what I should do with the whole thing?

Any advice you lot can offer would be massively appreciated - I've never been in this situation before and it's stressing me out so much!

Thanks in advance.

[Boisdevie]

If she knows you're pissed off wait and see if she changes her behaviour. But if I was crazy about somebody I"d make time to see them. Seems like you are not her first priority.

[Maple1714]

Yeah, seems like you are not her first priority. Tell her you want to spend more alone time together and give her a chance to make some changes....if nothing changes then move on to the next. If it's this hard now to find alone time together what would it be like if you got married and had kids?