Has she truly changed?!

[Seattle1234]

I have been dating a girl </snip> for the last four months. Our relationship has gotten progressively worse as time has gone by. Kristy is very destructive and has huge anger issues that I never imagined or knew of. I broke up with her last month because I just couldn't handle being around her. The last week or so, I have been seeing her again as friends, and she has been acting totally different. Now that we are apart, I feel like she is only acting nice and "normal" just to suck up to me so I can take her back. Do you think this is just a facade? Has she truly changed her ways, or is she acting normal just to get me back? She claims that she is a new person now and that she's changed, but I am really skeptical about that. How can somebody change over the span of a few weeks and move forward from their old ways that easily? I am really questioning this..


</snip, don't need to include the girl name> - LA

[IndiReloaded]

People never really change. So much angst could be avoided if people believed in relationship WYSIWYG. Accept, or move on.

[CrazyAboutHer]

People can change, to a certain extent.

From personal experience, I have grown and changed because of the relationships which i had. Some of the change were due to the breakups when you look at what went wrong. I don't know her, but if she had some real feelings for you she may have the honest intention to change.

Realize it is also possible that, because you're talking to her in a different setting than you have for the last 4 months , she is acting differently and wearing a 'mask' of sorts.

[bcgirl]

Even anger management can't make a person drastically change in a few weeks