Yo, team. It's been a month since I was last in contact with my ex. Basically the day we separated, we went no contact. It hasn't always been rad, but it forces you to learn patience! It's kinda' hip.
Cutting straight to the chase, I'm interested in knowing the definitive way to re-establish contact with my ex.
I remember vividly, a week before we separated: I was cracking wise and she asked me "Why are you so funny all the time?" I'm thinking about sending her a light hearted text here and there, assuming she responds, and then from there, eventually going to meeting up at a little cafe we always wanted to go to together, but never got around to. There are so many great little places in my city that it was hard to see them all, but man, we laid a big dent in the bucket list!
I had wondered if I'd still be interested in her, or if, like a teenager, I'd feel betrayed or something, and I don't. The breakup forced me to look at myself and grow. I've never tried to get a lover back into my life in any capacity. This is new territory for this 27 year old here. When we separated, I told her I respected her decision. I admired her honesty and strength. She is the most fun, beautiful, and brilliant woman.
Responses I'm not looking for: folk who immediately say "Move on." I will move on if this doesn't work out. Throughout the course of this month I've been my most social; I've enrolled in a couple classes, done some light traveling, my career is accelerating, and yes, I have been talking to other women. I've been able to examine what I want from life. I never thought about values and the future before. What was I thinking!? It just didn't occur to me.
We had a ridiculously amazing time together, and I believe we still can. If my valiant effort fails, then it fails, but man, life's about risk.
Let's keep the negativity on hold, fellow users. Is sending a text or two before making a suggestion about the cafe a good idea, or should I just shoot for the cafe firstly?