i am in my early 20s and i got involved with a 40-yo 3 months ago. he is very good looking and i am very attracted to him, physically and on other levels. he is a player, cheater, and liar. everyone that knows about my relationship asks me to end it but i am so attached to him that it has been really really difficult to make a decision at this point.
he still talks to girls he had been with and cheated on me with one of them (that i know of). we have a lot of mutual friends and i know that he still approaches other girls, girls that we both know.
i have never liked anyone this much prior to meeting him. i think he cares about me. he took really good care of me when i was sick. but all my friends say that i am in denial. am i really just one of the targets and he is slowly phrasing out of it by chatting up with other girls?
i think that i see things fairly clearly, i have been pondering about ending this only a few weeks after we got together. but it took me 2 months to finally make the decision, after some things are taken care of. how, how am i going to get over him? i am in so much pain and it drives me crazy that the first and last thing on my mind is him. again, we have a lot of mutual friends, we are in the same social circle. another thing is that our relationship had never been out in the open so most people in the circle don't know about it. it's one of the reasons i keep hearing and seeing him, and it's just been excruciating.
i am not a very open person, meaning that i don't talk things aloud with him for the most part. i don't know how to bring things up with him. my friends are so tired of this now that i get shut out every time i bring up the topic again. how and when will i get the closure that i need?