There's a guy I've been sort of, kind of seeing the past maybe 2 months. Basically we're just friends, but occasional (frequent-ish?) more-than-friends things will happen. Kissing, etc. And more sometimes. I like him, he's a super great guy, and I definitely enjoy his friendship a lot. But there's never been those "holy crap what a CONNECTION!" feelings with him. It's just been nice, as we're both single and have no (i think?) intentions of having a relationship. I didn't, anyway, and I'm fairly certain with what I know about him that he's in the same boat.
But I don't know because we've never once talked about what we are. Which I didn't really mind, but...
The other night I met this other AMAZING guy. It was like, bam, instant connection. Like, holy-crap-I-didn't-know-these-feelings-were-even-POSSIBLE kinda connection. He lives kinda far away, he was just visiting and then he went home the morning after we met. But we've been keeping in touch (like, texting all day every day, phone calls, etc). Because of the distance and how recently we met, we're obviously not trying to get into a relationship right now or anything. But we talk about visiting each other, and I know I'm hoping for something to come of it, and he is too, because I have never felt this way about someone before. He says the same: It's like the butterflies you haven't felt since high school, the perfect, flowing conversation you never thought you could have. That kind of stuff. I could go on and on. I don't even believe in this kind of immediate love. But if it exists... this is it. It's like, surreal.
So, I'm obviously not wanting to continue things with the other guy now, because it seems both kind of wrong, and also pointless because now I know it's not going to turn into anything. I see now what a wonderful connection you can have with someone, and I don't have that with him.
But I don't know what to say to him about it, especially considering we've never once acknowledged in words that we are more than friends. But we ARE friends, and I can't just avoid him forever, and I don't want to. But I know if we ever hung out one-on-one again, he'd probably keep acting in the vaguely-more-than-friends way way always have, and I dunno how to indicate that whatever unspoken "thing" we've had should end. It's not like a break up because most of our relationship is just friendly anyway (we don't say romantic things to each other or anything). So I don't know how to word it? I don't even know what he feels for me; I recently mentioned our "thing" to mutual friends and apparently he's never even mentioned it to them.
Should I tell him the truth, that I met someone else I feel more of a connection with? (awkwardly enough, I think he might know the guy). Or would it be nicer to just be kinda vague, and say (truthfully) that I don't see us going anywhere as romantic partners and I'm not interested in having the "casual fling" be part of our friendship anymore? How should I bring this up?