married men and daiting sites

[heartach]

I have found out on the history of the computer my hus band visited 2 daing sites today and this isn't the first time he has done it. I confronted him the first time I saw it and the talk didn't go well. Basicaly he got mad at me for snopping and that it was my fault because he was wanting sex and I was going through a rough time and made him think I wasn't interested so he got it somewhere else with cyber sex on the computer. He says talking to him about his porn, these dating sites and his female friends that he talks to a lot and one of them he has feelings for hurts him and he feels like I am shaming him for being himself. So if I complaine or bring it up he shuts down and distances himself emotionaly. He wants me to let him be him and love him for him and be secure in myself and not make a big deal about that stuff because there are other things more important to worry about. Why do some married men go on thses siites? Is this something I should be worried about? Does this mean he doesn't love or care or respect me anymore and wants to move on?

[Boisdevie]

Listen honey, how many ****ing times are you going to post on here? Your husband is quite clearly a shit and your marriage is a complete disaster area. So stop asking us stupid ****ing questions and end the marriage.

[TheCafeTerrace]

Don't beat around the bush Boisdevie, say what you really think.

[MaidenMinx]

I hate to say it, but I agree with Boisdevie. You have posted many many questions about your marriage and how to help it. Either our advice isn't working and you should look elsewhere for advice OR you haven't even tried the advice given OR you are a bored little drama queen who may or not be really married with nothing better to do but seek anonymous attention from a bunch of strangers.
If you are married, put the effort you put into posting here to go and get some real world help, counselling would be a good start. Maybe from there you can determine whether or not this is a relationship you want to keep investing in.

[heartach]

Yes I am married, no I am not looking for attention or trying to be a drama queen. I have been doing the asvice I have been given and things are getting better slowly. I am putting a lot of effort into my marriage and going to counsling. It is just that counsling just works on me but I am trying to understand men at the same time. And I figured and thought this might help and it. Did help to a point. I honestly thought I was asking differant questions. I guess not. Well I will do what u are all asking and stop ****ing bothering u all and band myself from here. I must be too stupid for u all or you don't understand what I am saying so I will do this on my own sorry I bothered you all GOODBYE!

[searock]

It really would have helped if you had asked *all* the questions in one single thread, rather than opening a thread for each and every problem.

[VincenzoG91]

Yes I am married, no I am not looking for attention or trying to be a drama queen. I have been doing the asvice I have been given and things are getting better slowly. I am putting a lot of effort into my marriage and going to counsling. It is just that counsling just works on me but I am trying to understand men at the same time. And I figured and thought this might help and it. Did help to a point. I honestly thought I was asking differant questions. I guess not. Well I will do what u are all asking and stop ****ing bothering u all and band myself from here. I must be too stupid for u all or you don't understand what I am saying so I will do this on my own sorry I bothered you all GOODBYE!

Your marriage counselor is ripping you off. Either you and your husband get counseling together, or get divorce lawyers separately, because your marriage isn't working. Going to counseling alone might help you, but it isn't going to save your marriage without your husband's participation. And to hell with his anger. Instead of working with you on the marriage, he is sneaking around. But if he can't figure out his marriage, it's unlikely that any other relationships are going to work for him either. He sounds like a selfish ass, and you are probably better off without him.

[Cerby]

heartach, no disrespect at all, but a marriage counselor is for your marriage, you need to go together. If he refuses to go, then you're not gaining anything from it.

This is a dysfunctional relationship and nothing short of a miracle will save it. If he won't go with you to counseling, he isn't serious about saving your relationship. You don't need to accept him having an emotional affair just because "it is who he is". Time to move on.

[Boisdevie]

Time to move on.

But she won't move on. She'll keep asking stupid questions when it's pretty clear to even the most stupid onlooker that her marriage is a wreck and nothing will save it.

[smackie9]

It takes two to repair a marriage. By the sounds of it only you have been putting effort into it, so guess what, it won't work, your efforts are fruitless. He has litterally disconnected from you and your marriage. He hasn't the balls to leave you, he is wating for you to make that move, so until you say "cya" he is just gonna keep doing what he is doing....that is the reality of it.

Everyone is tired of your posts is because all you keep doing is posting till someone tells you things you want to hear. It hasn't happened yet, and it never will because there is no resolution to your troubled marriage except to end it.