Party Invitations?

[confusedkitty]

I have this issue with being invited to parties.

If the invitation wasn't extended by the one throwing the party or at least the one organizing it I'm always very very reluctant to go and I think it's frustrating my partner very much already.

I was brought up in a way that if the one throwing the party or organizing it wasn't the one who invited you then you really aren't being invited at all and it's a bad idea if you go. It would be as if you're imposing yourself since you're "there already and they can't do anything about it."

So this is my dilemma. This is probably the nth party that my partner has invited me to go. Problem is: It's a party that's being thrown by my partner's officemates and she's just extending her own invitation to me. I said no and my partner is clearly upset about it.

Am I just being too paranoid or am I still somehow in the right?

[confusedkitty]

I'm not expecting her supervisor or boss to invite me. I was just thinking it wasn't proper to go since it's not really an open invitation for the BOTH of us. Just her.

And for a member of a love advice forum you can sure be hurtful.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

It's implied that at a work gathering, significant others are invited, unless expressly stated otherwise. I know I can be hurtful, and its a reflection of my frustration, as is her being upset with you. If it wasn't okay for you to come then she wouldn't invite you to come along. There are plenty of times when a party thrower wants to have a good turnout, so they want their guests to bring people as well. Sounds like you're afraid of meeting new people or something. She probably thinks you're a pussy or that you don't want to meet her friends and be a part of her life. Or both.

[confusedkitty]

I'll take your words into consideration. Thanks.