So over the years I had a long distance thing with a girl a few years older than me. We would get intimate and sexual on and off and we'd like it but sometimes it'd go too far. We decided to be friends until we meet up and hang out and then see what we want. She likes me a lot but I'm not 18 so we couldn't really go anywhere with it and be open to people about it so that was a part of waiting until I'm 18 and then hanging out.
I was content with this then, a guy she met online a couple months ago "asked her out". She was surprised when it happened and was crying when she told me about it because what we have is very special and she likes me a lot but we can't really take it anywhere right now because I'm not 18. She wants to try it out with him and see where it goes.
So here's their situation: They've never met. He lives in Europe and she's in Canada. They can't text and can barely talk on skype because of the time difference. When they do talk, it might be for 10 min and he'll fall asleep on her because it's so late for him. Or they'll just fall asleep on each other in a half hour. Some days, he'll fall asleep before she even gets online and they won't talk at all. Regardless, a lot of the time, they'll barely talk and she'll be left sad. It's hard enough now to hang out when he's not in school yet(she is), but in October, he'll be going to law school which I've heard is absolutely time-consuming, like he'll have to fully devote himself to that so I figure that if now is easy time but they can barely talk, they pretty much won't be able to talk at all when he's in school. She was skeptical about the relationship with him at first since he's so far away, she thought it might too hard to work anyway with how long distance it is and with time differences. They won't be able to meet up for a really long time, possibly years away.
But she still wants to meet up with me and see where it goes and I'll definitely be able to visit her finally in spring break or summer at the latest. I'll turn 18 in October(same time he goes to law school, interestingly) so that should definitely make her more comfortable with me and she'll see us as possible and her feelings might get stronger because we would actually be able to take it somewhere and be open about it to other people.
It's only been less than 2 weeks and they're already hitting bumps. As mentioned earlier, he'll fall asleep on her a lot which will leave her sad and then she'll come to me. He might fall asleep before they even talk and then they won't talk at all that day and she'll be really sad and come to me. Sometimes he'll go away from skype because he has to do something and he won't say what he has to do or for how long and she'll be waiting around for hours. But when she'll be away like that for 2 minutes, he'll freak out and demand to know what she's doing and think she's ignoring him or something. This leaves her feeling like it's a double standard where he can go and do stuff as he pleases but she can't and has to wait around forever. I think he's basically taking her for granted. Plus, the other day, they were talking for a few hours and me and her hadn't been able to talk for a few days, we missed each other. She told him she was gonna go talk to me for a little bit before I had to go to work and he got all upset. He's been whining and making her feel guilty for not being able to talk as much as he'd like to but she genuinely has school to deal with. He wants to hang out with her as much as possible before law school in October, since he'll have no time then. So he got upset when she wanted to leave her and go talk to me. They got in an argument and she said she promised and she missed me and stuff but he was still angry. Said 'don't bother calling back'. She came to me and said it was making her feel guilty and upset and like she just can't win. I think he's insecure, jealous and just doesn't know how to treat her. She's an extremely nice, patient girl and has defended it, saying he just misses her. But I think he needs to be less controlling.
So the bottom line is that they'll probably not be able to talk when he goes to law school and that'll fizzle out and not work like people have been saying, especially if he keeps making her sad or feel like crap. And in the meantime I'll be there for her and talk to her all the time that he's not able to.
She does like me a lot as more than a friend, I just need to turn 18 in october so she'll be more comfortable. I can hopefully rekindle it. Then I can definitely visit her first because of his tough schedule. Can this work in my favor? Thoughts?