I don't want to make this a long unreadable story, so I'll try to be concise.
Was good friends with a guy for 3 years before I started having sex with him a year ago. Initially thought I would have sex a few times just to satisfy myself and then it would end. Fast forward to now and I am totally attached to him. He might as well be my boyfriend to all intents and purposes.
I live abroad and intend to return home in 2 years time but I can't bear the thought of leaving him then. I asked him where we stood relationship-wise, and he says he wants to keep our relationship light and non-serious, because we both know it will end. I am his first relationship and he says if he wasn't with me, he wouldn't be looking for anyone else. I believe him. He also says that anyone under 35 who is in a serious relationship is making a serious mistake because they're sacrificing their freedom. When you're young you should be developing yourself, seeing the world etc.
I am inclined to agree with him, but my feelings for him are beginning to cloud my judgement. I realise that if he doesn't see us as being in an official relationship, that I should break it off now, because otherwise I will get even more attached, and the inevitable breakup will be devastating. I have tried to break up with him twice, but we always ended up together again because we were miserable without each other. The problem is, we work together, so breaking all ties is impossible.
He is a very intelligent, pragmatic man and he treats me very well. I know he is not using me for sex. And he does genuinely like me, but he doesn't want to get tied down. We are very honest and open with each other.
I just need some outside opinions on this. Should I end it now? Or should I continue going along the way I'm going, and enjoy the reality as it is now? A breakup is inevitable, so I'm going to be devastated either way. We're both still young, mid twenties.