What should I do?! :(

[fallingapart]

Hello everyone I hope you can help me because I'm feeling really really depressed right now and it's all because of a guy...

So, on Sunday, I went to visit a friend of mine. I haven't seen him in a while because he lives a couple hours away from me. I was about to go home and then, his room mate came home. And then it happened, I instantly fell in love with him. I never believed in 'love at first sight' but suddenly it happened to me. He introduced himself, smiled at me and said "goodbye". He seemed really sweet and all. As I left the building I saw him standing by the window, staring at me.

When I got home, I sent him a friend request on Facebook and wrote him a short message, so he'd know who exactly I am. I accepted my request but didn't reply. I thought about messaging him again but since I'm too shy I didn't. I thought that it might be annoying and maybe he doesn't want to talk to me, so yeah...

Yesterday, I went to see my friend again because he and his room mate are leaving the country today (they are both from Russia) and they won't come back until March or April. My friend's room mate was there too but this time, he wasn't all nice and sweet. He barely looked at me and didn't smile. He didn't even say "hello" or "goodbye".

My friend told me that he's always acting like that in front of 'strangers' and I should just ignore him. But I can't. I didn't tell my friend that I like his room mate, because I know, my friend is into me. I don't want them to fight or something.
Later he told me, that his roomie never replies to messages (from a girl) or he sends a really short, unfriendly, sarcastic reply.

He seems to be annoyed really fast...but I just can't forget him. Should I message him anyways?

I don't want to write something 'boring' like "hey, how are you?" because his answer to this would be "normal" or something like that. He also ignores questions like "what are you doing?"...he doesn't like to be asked (personal) questions by people he doesn't know really well. But that's actually the only way for me to get to know him better Since he's out of the country, I won't be able to meet him but I don't want to wait until he's back either.

The thing is, I just want to get to know him a little bit better and become friends. It doesn't have to be a relationship. I just want him to be a part of my life... Talking to him online would be the only way...
He seems to distance himself from others and won't let anybody get close to him. and he doesn't have a girlfriend at the moment, so that's not the reason why he's acting like that.

If he gets annoyed by someone on FB, he deletes (and blocks) them. And since he gets annoyed really really fast, I'm not sure if I want to risk it.
For example, he's always online on FB, even if he's busy. But how am I supposed to know if he's got some time or not? If you interrupt him, he gets kinda snappish, according to my friend. And if I asked him, if he's got some time to talk, his reply would be "ok, you have five minutes"... not really nice huh?

I really want to message him but I don't want to be treated like that or being ignored. I've had so many disappointments in my life and this one would be the worst I guess...not even kidding. I don't think my friend would help me to get to know him because he know that I'd just get hurt but there has to be a way...

I hope anybody here can help me. I don't want to give up on him just yet. Not without a fight.

[j-white]

Well erm. You dont actually know anything whatsoever about the guy. I would have said dont bother but Im in a crazy situation myself and dont have any high horse to get on!

Just message him whatever, if he is actually interested in you in any way then he should respond no matter how mundane the message. If he responds in a curt way. Give him some of his own treatment I'd say, see how that goes?
You dont have anything to lose (except your dignity) but he's miles away anyway so just go for it and dont take it so seriously.

[fallingapart]

I know some stuff about him... and it's actually not bad, except for the part of him being unfriendly
Yeah, I think I will message him, but the thing is, he might delete me if I treat him like that, because he'd probably just feel offended...
Sure, I'd feel offended too if he sends me a message like that but I just couldn't delete him...

[j-white]

Well then if you reply in kind and he gets offended then you'll know he isnt worth worrying about, if he thinks he's too smart for pleasant conversation (which sounds like the case) he might enjoy a bit of back and forth or a debate and begin to reply.
Either way you arent really losing anything if it goes wrong because it probably would never have gone anywhere anyway.
I should clarify I didnt mean treat him bad, just be a bit sarcastic and rude back. Not tell him he's a **** or anything!

[fallingapart]

I think you're right...but I'd still be kinda hurt for a while something like that has never happened to me before
I'd just have to be careful with 'debating' because I know I sometimes go too far and this could just easily offend him and it would be over...:/
Well, I don't know HOW to message him anyways...he gets annoyed by asking how he's feeling, so I don't even know how to start the conversation haha

[BackUpOrGetStng]

I have not read anything, but you need to stop contacting whoever is causing you to use all these sad faces.

[fallingapart]

I didn't contact him...

[InYourFACE]

Like how old aare you? And love on first sight dont exist.
Fall in love immediately can,

Maybe you can let your friend tell him that you like him. just to see
the reaction. And if its well, you can approach him in a slowly nice way.

But one thing he sounds like a very difficult guy that can break any girls heart that
run after him instead of him after them.
So maybe you should look for someone else.

[fallingapart]

Like how old aare you? And love on first sight dont exist.
Fall in love immediately can,

Maybe you can let your friend tell him that you like him. just to see
the reaction. And if its well, you can approach him in a slowly nice way.

But one thing he sounds like a very difficult guy that can break any girls heart that
run after him instead of him after them.
So maybe you should look for someone else.

I'm 21.
It just happened I can't change it...

And I can't tell my friend I like him because my friend is into me and it would just break his heart. They are in Russia right now anyway so it would be pointless

I think you're right with the part of him breaking other girls hearts... but he likes it when a girl fights for him in a non-annoying way. Which means not approaching him too much...:/ I won't give up just yet