Bit of advice please, im not sure what to do next.

[samldn]

First Post here.

Right about a month or so ago i met this girl through a friend. Anyway we got on quite well i didnt really think much of it. She added me on Facebook we had quite a bit of banter and exchanged messages for the whole weekend. After a few days i asked her if she wanted to go out sometime, after going round the houses a bit she finally said no as shes kinda seeing someone and she dosnt know whats happening there. I accepted that and left it as that, just carried on chatting as friends.

Since then we've exchanged numbers and been messaging everyday since, sometimes for pretty much the whole day. Theres times when she just wont leave me alone. Im quite confused about the whole thing, she seems like a pretty honest girl so i dont think shes just after the attention but after only meeting someone once do you message someone that much? It comes across like shes interested then she backs off. Shes gone very quite the past few days, shes says shes ok but im not sure, does she want me to leave her alone? ive asked that and she says no, does she want me to try again?

Theres a slight age gap, im mid 20's and shes early.

Im quite confused and was just after your thoughts?

[Boisdevie]

She probably enjoys the attention you're giving her. Since she is kinda seeing someone why not stop wasting your time?

[samldn]

Maybe i should, i dont know why but i cant stop thinking about it.

You think i should stop the messages? and if she sends any just reply without giving off any interest?

[bulrush]

She doesn't know what she wants. She is vague about her other "boyfriend" and I think she just likes the attention from you. She will only use you as her "cuddle bitch". I think you should find someone who will not play games with you.

[samldn]

She doesn't know what she wants. She is vague about her other "boyfriend" and I think she just likes the attention from you. She will only use you as her "cuddle bitch". I think you should find someone who will not play games with you.

so you dont think it sounds like shes actually interested and is just playing games?

[bulrush]

Yes I think she is playing games. You are wasting your time with someone who doesn't even know what she wants. She won't know what she wants with you either. This type of girl tends to use people, not on purpose, but because they honestly don't know what the heck they want from a boyfriend or from life.

Find someone worth your time.

[samldn]

Yes I think she is playing games. You are wasting your time with someone who doesn't even know what she wants. She won't know what she wants with you either. This type of girl tends to use people, not on purpose, but because they honestly don't know what the heck they want from a boyfriend or from life.

Find someone worth your time.

Ok thanks, i appreciate the input. Going on whats shes said i think shes confused as well, maybe your right. Its a shame because i actually do like the girl, quite alot. Maybe i should just leave it now and not contact her because its doing my head in.

[Boisdevie]

Maybe i should just leave it now and not contact her because its doing my head in.

Damn good idea.

[lylufy]

Ok thanks, i appreciate the input. Going on whats shes said i think shes confused as well, maybe your right. Its a shame because i actually do like the girl, quite alot. Maybe i should just leave it now and not contact her because its doing my head in.

I do not think this is good idea.
She has not found herself relationship yet. Maybe or not.
Or she is confused thinking about commitment relationship with you.
Why don't you ask her directly ? face to face to know what her thinking? (but using an sensitive way)

[surfhb]

I do not think this is good idea.
She has not found herself relationship yet. Maybe or not.
Or she is confused thinking about commitment relationship with you.
Why don't you ask her directly ? face to face to know what her thinking? (but using an sensitive way)

More time wasting ..... She already told him she's not interested

[InYourFACE]

Yu are a male slut.\
cause if someone tells you no i dont want to date, you should back off completely.
cause the person have a relationship.

but you took her number cause you hoped that she would cheat with you or you can still make a chance.
that is wrong.
and im shore you text her disrespectful stuff so she can fall fr you . respect others relationship like you want them to do to you

[samldn]

Yu are a male slut.\
cause if someone tells you no i dont want to date, you should back off completely.
cause the person have a relationship.

but you took her number cause you hoped that she would cheat with you or you can still make a chance.
that is wrong.
and im shore you text her disrespectful stuff so she can fall fr you . respect others relationship like you want them to do to you

No, i took her number before i knew she was seeing someone. I dont send any disrespectful messages, if theres any flirting or anything like that she starts it.

[samldn]

i decided to send her a message, just a hi, hows it going, what you upto type. i still think shes being off with me, i have no idea why. i dunno if cba anymore. maybe she was just playing games all along, she dosnt seem like that type of girl. i'll just see how it goes.

[Wakeup]

i decided to send her a message, just a hi, hows it going, what you upto type. i still think shes being off with me, i have no idea why. i dunno if cba anymore. maybe she was just playing games all along, she dosnt seem like that type of girl. i'll just see how it goes.

Why are you being so desperate? SHE.HAS.A.BOYFRIEND.

Back off and if she wants to be with you, she'll break up with him and text you. You trying to influence her decision won't do you one bit of good. Don't text her again and if she texts you, ask her if she's broken up with her bf yet. If she says "no" then shut her down quick. Don't give her reasons to stay with him. She doesn't have to leave if she's getting the extra attention from you while she's with him. You enable her to be undecided.

[samldn]

Ok, ive thought about this alot and im gonna back off like most have said, i'll reply to any messages sent but i'll keep it short until she says shes no longer seeing her bloke? Im not gonna give the attention any more.