Urgent advice needed!

[Chelsxx]

So hi there!

My name's Chelsea and I'm new to this whole forum thing! I was wondering whether anyone could help me ..

I recently started a new job, in January I started working at a family run sales and letting management company. One of my first tasks was to complete the pre move in documents for a new tenant that had applied for a tenancy at the apartment next door. As soon as I met the tenant I my heart sunk. He was absolutely gorgeous, tall, dark and handsome. He had a cheeky smile with two dimples either side, big strong arms and flawless skin. I had to find out more. I searched him up on Facebook the next day, to my horror he had a girlfriend.

Months passed by and I couldn't get him off my mind, I got into a relationship myself which didn't last very long because of personal reasons, but the tenant next door was the centre of my attention 24/7. I had to do something, I followed him on Twitter and he followed me back! I sent him a direct message and we exchanged a few messages about work. He took his time to reply to me, but we had a bit of a flirt with each other, the last message I sent to him took him over three weeks to reply to? So I didn't bother answering him, I thought it was to late. And that was the end of that.

However, recently he was having trouble with his girlfriend and he was coming in the office more and more. Last week I checked his Facebook and he is now single, obviously I was delighted and my heart went into overdrive. I can't stop thinking about him, I can't stop thinking of ways to speak to him. I'm a very shy person and I don't have much confidence. I'm only 20 and he's two years older than me. I've had such negative experiences in the past, I don't know what to do. I really like him already!! But I don't even know whether he's noticed me. I'm turning crazy over this!! I finally decided to add him on Facebook today, hoping he'd like a picture of me or even update his status giving me a reason to inbox him, but nothing!!

I know it may seem like a childish thing to bring up, and many people will be thinking just speak to him. But .. I don't know, I guess I'm scared of rejection? Arn't we all?

If anyone has any ideas? Or any words of advice? Or anything you've experienced that is similar then please share!!

Thanks!!

P.S Sorry for the essay! I hope I've done this right

[bebaba]

I know how it feels not to be able to get someone out of your mind!

BUT (Very important but)

These are 'MEN' we are talking about - (most of them) think TOTALLY differently to us women and before any men on this forum jump at this statement, let me just point out that the men that post on this forum are unlike most - they are more sensitive and more in touch with their emotions. I wish they were all like that

Anyway, yeah - men don't generally think the same way as women - they don't tend to overanalyse words, body language, gestures etc. He has noticed you, as I'm guessing he has accepted you on facebook and therefore knows who you are?!

Give it a few days/weeks (NOOOO I hear you cry) to get over his ex, then inbox him, he's sure to have written a status worthy of an inbox comment by then.

Patience will pay off honey pie.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

This first suggestion was a terrible one.

The guy lives next door. Next time you see him, just ask about his day. Ask what he's doing this weekend. Do not use facebook.

[Chelsxx]

Do you really think Facebook is a bad idea? I'm not a very confident person, I feel more at ease behind the computer. But I wouldn't even know where to start, I hate starting conversations!

Thanks for your advice

[just_shane]

Being a guy, I'll give my opinion.

If he frequently uses Twitter, yet takes 3 weeks to reply, he may not be interested(I've never cheated, but while in relationships, I'd still reply to online messages from girls if they were harmless messages)

Also, if he frequently uses Facebook, and hasn't accepted your request, that most likely means not interested. Guys don't get half as many fb notifications as women do, so we generally get excited when we have a new request or something.

Basically, the lack of attention he gives you, that's what I do if I'm not interested in a girl.

Don't take my opinion 100% though, because many guys are different. I hope for your sake that I'm wrong.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Facebook is a bad idea, especially when you live right there. Like I said, just say, "Hi, how are you?". Ask about his day, and then ask what he is doing on the weekend. If he is interested he will keep things going.

If you're at least reasonably attractive and/or somewhat interesting, then you have a shot to at least become a booty call, if not more.