pictures of other girls in his bedroom

[IceGirl]

I met this man 5 weeks ago and with each day that goes by I like him more and more. It seems to have the potential for something serious and nice, he treats me well, we have fun and the sex is good.

I would love to spend some time at his house with his 14 year old son, just eating supper and watching TV. I feel really good there and I'm sure I'd spend more time there than at my own home.

There is just this one problem. When I go to his bedroom my heart just sinks and my throat clams up. All the walls are covered by about 20 huge photographs of his ex girlsfriends, or with him (with an idiotic face)
and some porn stars taken at a porn convention. They are tacky and disgusting and badly taken, not even artistic or nice or sexy. His bathroom is lined with them as well, there is one of 2 girls in a bikini in a bubble bath, him with 2 girls, one of his "friend that he accidentally had sex with one time" where she is falling off the bed with her jeans around her knees. Every time I have sex with him in his room, I have to have his ex girls asses IN MY FACE.



He's probably thinking it's jealousy, I admitt I got pissed of about this crap at one point and asked if his ex on one of the pictures had a tighter pussy than me. But I'm not a jelous person. I trust him, I'm not worried that he'll cheat on me or will ever be with those girls again. Why can't he let past be past and not let this ruin this current relationship? I'm not a prude, I love that he's a pervert and can't wait to go to strip clubs with him and look at porn with him.

To me it's 1) it makes him look like a pathetic loser and that is such a turn off for me, I'm worried that I'm losing sexual interest in him because of this 2) I'm losing respect for him because of this. 3) I feel like he's disrespecting me and our relationship because of this 4) It's like those pictures matter more to him than risk of losing me. Why can't he just take them down and then he can always put them back up once he's single again?

I've tried to express myself and tell him straight out but to no prevail. I don't want to ask him to take them down, I don't want to control him or change him. I want him to find it appropriate to take them down, in his own will.

Am I making to big of a deal about this? And he seems upset that I don't spend enough time over at his house.

I'm seriously feeling like those pictures have already damaged our relationship and I don't know how to handle this so please help. I'm usually to tolerant but last night it just hit me and I had insomnia thinking about this until 4 am and I'm thinking about breaking up with him because of this. It's so scary that the doesn't get how ****ed up this is.

[vashti]

Tell him you aren't going to his house to f*ck him anymore because his bedroom disgusts you. You shouldn't be hanging out there anyway... none of his girlfriends should, until he is actually serious about one. His kid shouldn't be exposed to a parade of women.

[surfhb]

That's funny !!!

[Wakeup]

I think he might be doing you in his teenaged son's room.

one of his "friend that he accidentally had sex with one time"

how does that happen? Did he trip and fall into her vagina?

I feel really good there and I'm sure I'd spend more time there than at my own home.

Don't tell him that or he'll never take them down.

It's so scary that the doesn't get how ****ed up this is.

What's scary is that you actually think that you're special to him. What ever you do, don't let him take your picture.

[IceGirl]

Please give me more feedback. I feel like crap. I just ran out to buy a picture frame and put a picture of my face in it to give to him for his birthday tomorrow along with other stuff. I feel like an idiot. I shouldnt be seing him, I'm to good for this. He's dated strippers and I'm a scientist and hotter than any of his exes and they were all crazy (according to him). I don't know what is wrong with me, I'm dissapointed in myself. I can get any man and I'm with this?

[IceGirl]

He hasn't dated anyone for 5 years or so. He talks like he's serious about me and plans things for us to do, like trips in the summer which is 8 months away.

[Love'sReject]

Can't tell if serious or trolling...which I actually hope is the case. Otherwise, it's just adding fuel to a perverted fire, with the resolution blatantly staring at you in the face. o.0

[IceGirl]

I swear this is dead serious, I'm 37 and he's 49. Seems stable, single father, makes it well known that he wants to be with me. He said once he gets pictures of me and us he'll replace them. He also has a stripper pole in there, with a thog mashine and everything. He said he's only had them there for a year, got tired of being single so they cheered him up I guess. I just don't think it applies anymore.

I'm embarrassed. I'm don't want to meet his family and friends since they probably know how he is. I guess it's doomed. I don't want my own family to know about this, or my friends. He's pretty open about everything, something is wrong with him. Like on our fist date he "boasted" about being raped by a female friend while he was treating her to a cruise! And claims that she's stalking him, but yet he invited her on another cruise. wft! Other than that, our views and lives seem so similar, everything he says is like it's coming from my mouth.

[iamaninnocentma]

If youre really 37 i doubt you could "get any man". I for example would never go near a women over 30. Maybe your standards are a little too high at the moment.

[Love'sReject]

with each day that goes by I like him more and more.

I would love to spend some time at his house with his 14 year old son,

There is just this one problem. When I go to his bedroom my heart just sinks and my throat clams up. All the walls are covered by about 20 huge photographs of his ex girlsfriends, or with him (with an idiotic face)
and some porn stars taken at a porn convention. They are tacky and disgusting and badly taken, not even artistic or nice or sexy. His bathroom is lined with them as well, there is one of 2 girls in a bikini in a bubble bath, him with 2 girls, one of his "friend that he accidentally had sex with one time" where she is falling off the bed with her jeans around her knees. Every time I have sex with him in his room, I have to have his ex girls asses IN MY FACE.





To me it's 1) it makes him look like a pathetic loser and that is such a turn off for me, I'm worried that I'm losing sexual interest in him because of this 2) I'm losing respect for him because of this. 3) I feel like he's disrespecting me and our relationship because of this 4) It's like those pictures matter more to him than risk of losing me. Why can't he just take them down and then he can always put them back up once he's single again?





I'm seriously feeling like those pictures have already damaged our relationship and I don't know how to handle this so please help.

A) I wonder how the kid is taking all of this...

B) How can you be "liking him more each day" or whatever when you're consistently on the verge of discovering something new and even more tacky than what precedes each discovery?

C) The exes' photographs is a disturbing element; he seems to view women as things to be collected. And it's just insulting to coax you into having these experiences.

D) Your four reasons listed are more than ample to support breaking things off.

[Love'sReject]

If youre really 37 i doubt you could "get any man". I for example would never go near a women over 30. Maybe your standards are a little too high at the moment.

Oh goodie, Opinionated Capt.Moron chimes in with another sensational effort...

[iamaninnocentma]

Oh goodie, Opinionated Capt.Moron chimes in with another sensational effort...

Shut up freak. Youre just jerking off because a female has finally spoken to you on the internet. Score.

[Love'sReject]

Shut up freak. Youre just jerking off because a female has finally spoken to you on the internet. Score.

Actually, it was because you've been talking to me, sweetie.

[iamaninnocentma]

Actually, it was because you've been talking to me, sweetie.

Dirty groomer.

[Love'sReject]

Dirty groomer.

You can't hide what's inside.