Hi all
Been going out with this great girl for 2 years. We are talking marriage and I am hoping an engagement is soon to come. But there are a few things keeping me from that as of now.
I stated the subject as 2 years feels like 2 months because she lives at home with her folks and we only see each other 2-3 times a week. She never spends the night at my place. If we go out of town which is only occasionally, 2-3 times a year, we will sleep together. It seems her folks are against her spending the night at my place or within the city where we live. No problems when out of town. I don't understand that, whats the difference. We're both old enough to be treated as adults, I'm 30, she's 27. Her parents like me, thats not an issue. They are church goers but are not die-hard protestants or anything. Anyway, we can go _months_ without spending a night and it is really hard. She knows how I feel but tries to avoid the issue. I have to wait til marriage which at the earliest is another year. I think thats crazy.
When we do spend time together, its mostly on a social outing with her friends or my friends, or going to a movie etc. There has to be more steps involved before getting engaged. This feels like dating and we should be beyond that. I have so many friends living with their bf's/gf's and my gf can't spend a night with me.
There's a couple of other reasons but I don't want to post them to be honest...but this is my main concern. Even if we got engaged today, I can't expect things to change but be status quo until marriage. I can't jump into marriage from this stage in a relationship. I need some preparation and get my feet wet, ie, spend more time together and not see her go home at 11pm. Its hard when you spend an intimate evening together and then have your gf up and leave.
I'm on the brink of telling her enough is enough and time to take some steps out of the nest and become an adult. Her parents will get over it. But I don't know what to be doing anymore.
Thanks for the vent