I broke up with a long term boyfriend around a year ago, we lived together and we were very much best friends as well. It was a difficult breakup and as we were breaking up/the aftermathof breaking up I met another guy at work. This guy was also very interested but I was apprehensive, it was too soon. I explained my situation to him and he was very understanding. He slowly started hanging out with my friends and getting invited around our houses like my boyfriend never did (he always stayed separate we had our own friends).
A few months down the line we started seeing each other but I was still a little unsure, in my mind I missed my ex terribly but I knew aswell it hadn't worked out I wasn't waiting to gte into another relationship at all and I explained this to the new guy. I know that's what he wanted but I made sure he understood and he said it was fine.
After a while I felt that, over the course of time he naturally started feeling like he wanted to be with me as my boyfriend and I thought I'd start feeling this way too because that's the way it usually goes.. but for me these feelings just never happened. He didn't make me laugh like past boyfriends have he wasn't fun he was too shy I couldnth see in him everything that I wanted in a boyfriend usually - the things that are important to me. Months later I started to try and break the 'relationship' off, explaining this to him. This is where the problems began.
This boy would start to whinge and call me a b*tch for leading him on and because we work together at the same desk he makes everything so very awkward for me. He makes work horrendous, because he's become part of my friendship group it affects everyone and every outing we go on he'd come and just sulk if I was there and make everyone feel uncomfortable. He'd moan about me to my friends. Anyway in the end I said I'd give it another try because to be honest work was too unbearable, I can't leave, there's a waiting list to move teams.. just basically theres no options regarding work.
So anyway, we carry on as usual and he starts suffocating me massively. Staying at my house all the time and when I ask him to leave he'd get huffy. Turning up on nights out with my friends, all the time pressuring me to be with him.
Anyway. This has just carried on too long. It's been almost a year and I'm definitely not happy with this thing. I've TRIED to feel differently I really have. I just can't help the way I feel. There's nothing wrong with the guy but he's just not for me. I was his first proper girlfriend I'm 25 and he's 23. I'm scared of the way hello react again if I tell him I don't want this anymore. I know work will be unbearable. I won't be able to relax with my friends because hello be there or be talking about me behind my back. He always blanks me and it's embarrassing. He won't be civil like I've asked him to and just say hi if we pass at least
You see it's just not a simple case of telling a guy you don't want to see him anymore it's going to affect my everyday life. I'm literally never getting involved with someone at work ever again.