Is he interested in me?

[FlowerNinja]

Six months ago I moved country to start a new job and contacted a guy to share his apartment via a flatshare website. Our timings didn’t work out but since I didn’t know anyone in the country when I finally moved, he invited me around to have a look at the apartment and dinner with him and 4 couple friends of his. He was lovely and so were his friends, and I was surprised that he had told them all about me and how charming I was when I contacted him. I felt a connection with him, but as I was going through a relationship break up at the time (and he knew this). After awhile we no longer kept in touch, and I put it down to him just being friendly to a newcomer in the country and thought nothing of it.

A week ago he suddenly emails me and suggests catch up for a pre-Christmas drink, which I agreed. He then emails back to invite me to a party his friend is hosting and invites me, but then said ‘If I can’t go, I’m sure my friends (a couple who I met before through him) will be happy to take you. Whatever works for you.’

Is he romantically interested in me or does he just want to catch up as a friend?

Thanks for reading!

[haxan]

Appears to be interested.

[FlowerNinja]

I was thinking if he was interested surely he would want to have a catch up where it is a one-on-one rather than with a group of friends? He also suggested him gathering a few friends and hosting a dinner party for us - odd as I don't know him well and why he would want to get his friends involved..

[haxan]

Unless they're gay, men don't want females hanging around them or their friends unless we're interested romantically in you. Maybe he's moving slow, wants to see how you interact around other people, get a feel for your personality. If you like him, go with it and have fun.

[IndiReloaded]

He then emails back to invite me to a party his friend is hosting and invites me, but then said ‘If I can’t go, I’m sure my friends (a couple who I met before through him) will be happy to take you. Whatever works for you.’

Is he romantically interested in me or does he just want to catch up as a friend?

Interested. But kind of an idiot too, with this comment about the party. Heads up.

[FlowerNinja]

Thanks haxan I will see how this weekend goes. I have told him I am not comfortable going to the party if he is not going, so the current plan is the two of us will meet for drinks this weekend. IndiReloaded I agree he is either a very clueless man in his mid-thirities or I am reading too much into this and he sees me as a social charity case

[haxan]

Ya, see what happens. We (men) just tend not to waste very much time interacting with someone who's not attractive to us. At least that's a good sign. If he's eccentric and not your type, you'll find out sooner or later.